Parents

College Search: Planning

Question: When should I really start planning for college? You can start to plan for college very early. In some families, planning begins before the prospective collegian is born. Grandparents, relatives, or Mom and Dad begin to provide for the financial needs by setting up college funds. The majority of families, however, wait until the ...

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Ivy League Applications: Optional Reference Form

The two Teacher References are a required part of your application. You may use this Optional Reference Form if you wish to have an additional person who knows you well write on your behalf. That person may be, for instance, a brother or sister, a parent, a coach, a music instructor, an employer, or a ...

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Book Review: Smart Parents Guide To College

Smart Parents Guide to College: The 10 Most Important Factors for Students and Parents When Choosing a College, by Ernest L. Boyer and Paul Boyer Paperback – 227 pages, Peterson’s Guides The late Ernest Boyer was president of the Carnegie Foundation for the Advancement of Teaching and a legendary, nationally known expert on American education, ...

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Ivy Babies: Preparing For Academic Excellence

Hey Kids This article is mainly for parents but, if you’re like most intrepid teens, you’ll probably want to stick your nose in here at least a little bit. We’re going to talk about children. You’re one of those, you know. There’ll be some “developmental” stuff that you might find boring, but there will also ...

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Can Your Temperament Type Influence Your Career Choice?

There are billions of people in the world. Even so, there are amazing similarities among us. Modern psychological research has produced a classification system that assigns all of us into one of four basic temperaments which leads to one of 16 personality types. So what does this mean to you? As the parent of a ...

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Promoting Self-Actualization or Child Abuse?

Want to start a fight? The next time you’re in mixed company, just bring up the fact that you’re keeping a sharp eye on your grade schooler, looking for some early signs of precociousness. Who will that flush out? Of course: The Loud Angry Voice from Offstage. Loud Angry Voice from Offstage: “What’s wrong with ...

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Tuition Bills: Coming to a Mailbox Near You

When holiday parties are way behind us, a big hangover still haunts many college parents: those semiannual tuition bills. They usually show up in August and December. They’re relentless. When we see them in our mailbox, we wonder how such a small envelope can pack such a big punch. The sadistically interesting thing about college ...

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Your Child’s Inviduality and College Success

What exactly-beyond those adorable smiles and angelic faces-makes your children special? One of the miracles of parenting is watching our kids develop into real people. With my kids, I found them beginning to form their identities at around six months of age. That’s when they felt like a solid sack of potatoes and could alternately ...

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Vicarious Kid Syndrome: Parental Intent Impacts College Success

Let’s talk about motivations. One of the crucial fundamentals is analyzing the first thing that comes into your head about the elite college admissions process. Have you ever thought: “Hey, I never had the chance to go Ivy when I was a kid. So now, by gosh, my kid’s gonna get that chance”? If so, ...

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Disabling The Enabler: Resist The Urge To Become Enabling Parents

Now that we have that straight (and if you’re still with me), let’s talk about a common negative side effect of VKS: enabling. Are you a control freak? Did you always want to tie your child’s shoestrings for them, clean their room, or even do some of their homework? You could be an enabler. You’ll ...

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