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How do I get a date to prom? Any suggestions would be appreciated. I am 18 from Ohio, a senior going to Ohio State to major in Electrical Engineering.

By Athlonmj (Athlonmj) on Sunday, May 02, 2004 - 08:16 pm: Edit

you ask a girl

By Henfour (Henfour) on Sunday, May 02, 2004 - 08:17 pm: Edit

Haha very funny. What if I never talked to her before?

By Chamonix (Chamonix) on Sunday, May 02, 2004 - 08:18 pm: Edit

ask yourself, "what have I got to lose"

By Henfour (Henfour) on Sunday, May 02, 2004 - 08:20 pm: Edit

Should I ask her in person or on the phone? Do you have any prom success/nightmares that I should be aware of?

By Simplyloved (Simplyloved) on Sunday, May 02, 2004 - 08:22 pm: Edit

never on the phone. this is such a personal thing so due it in person.. the phone/internet is so impersonal

By Athlonmj (Athlonmj) on Sunday, May 02, 2004 - 08:33 pm: Edit

ask her in person, get some flowers.

By Henfour (Henfour) on Sunday, May 02, 2004 - 08:37 pm: Edit

A kid at my school got a girl flowers and put them on her car but got turned down, probably because he never talked to her before. A girl asked me by phone last year and I didn't have a problem with it, but she was from a different school. I asked a different girl by phone this year but she said no.

By Ecismyhome (Ecismyhome) on Sunday, May 02, 2004 - 09:02 pm: Edit

I just felt the situation out online, and then asked in person. I think it's quite important to ask the girl in person - anything else is just... silly.

By Mimi (Mimi) on Sunday, May 02, 2004 - 09:08 pm: Edit

haha, you make it sound like you're looking for a date online with that info

By Shhh (Shhh) on Sunday, May 02, 2004 - 09:12 pm: Edit

ahahah dont u think that if u never talked to her before andu come up with FLOWERS and ask her to prom she'd freak out? i mean, even i would freak out.

By Demonllama (Demonllama) on Sunday, May 02, 2004 - 09:21 pm: Edit

what does where you're going for school, where you live and what your major is going to be have to do with how to get a date?

honestly, all you gotta do is just go up to them and ask. it's hard, but i swear we don't bite. in fact, it's nice when a guy asks these days because prom has turned into a sadie hawkins dance- it's always the girls who have to ask nowadays which sucks hairy monkey balls. even if she already has a date, she'll feel really flattered that you asked her.

By Anticatalyst (Anticatalyst) on Sunday, May 02, 2004 - 09:25 pm: Edit

Do you have a specific girl in mind? If so, I don't know anything about the situation and even I, the advice-meister, am out of my depth.

If not...find a girl who looks nice, but not completely out of your depth (you'll know that better than I do), and just ask her. Most girls like to be asked out, even if they already have a date or don't want to go with you. It makes us happy.

If you've never talked to this girl before, do NOT get her flowers. It's creepy.

By Henfour (Henfour) on Sunday, May 02, 2004 - 09:57 pm: Edit

I haven't really talked to any girl in my school other than one in study hall and another in AP Chem. The one in study hall is somewhat plain and the one in Chem already has a date I think.

By Anticatalyst (Anticatalyst) on Sunday, May 02, 2004 - 10:04 pm: Edit

Well, at this point, not to be mean, but beggars can't be choosers. Either ask the plain girl or go completely weird and ask a girl you've never talked to before.

Or find some girl you know outside of school and take her. The ability to know people outside of the school environment really raises one's prestige with others.

By Leostargrl22 (Leostargrl22) on Sunday, May 02, 2004 - 10:04 pm: Edit

look, i wasnt asked to prom this year, it was yesterday, and it kinda sucked. I'm sure it is best if you just take a chance and ask straight out. If she is mature at all, she wont be mean.

By Anticatalyst (Anticatalyst) on Sunday, May 02, 2004 - 10:05 pm: Edit

And when I said "looks nice" I meant looks like she is a nice person, just to clear up any confusion. In case any fellow females who happen to be militant feminists decide to go all anti-objectification on my butt.

By Wishful_Thinker (Wishful_Thinker) on Sunday, May 02, 2004 - 10:18 pm: Edit

lolllll

go for it. the flowers is cute. don't use a corny pick-up line though, b/c that always makes me mad (personally).

just be nice about it. if she's nice, which you say she is, and you think she doesn't have a date, the odds are for you.

personally, if there's a sweet guy that comes up to me with flowers and asks me to teh prom and i don't have a date and i wasn't who i am (...paranoia issues and tendency to be stalked or asked out by suicidals taht attack me with accusations when i say no...) then i would say yes

bottom line: ASK HER IN PERSON, BE SWEET, AND BRAVE...go for it.

also, wear nice cologne...can't hurt ya. it always turns my head

By Shhh (Shhh) on Sunday, May 02, 2004 - 10:27 pm: Edit

if i saw someone asking a girl out with roses, id throw up on the happy couple.

not to mention that the girl (if she wasnt in love with u) would freak out

By Mimi (Mimi) on Sunday, May 02, 2004 - 10:35 pm: Edit

haha... well prom isn't here yet... start making friends

By Dswmo456 (Dswmo456) on Monday, May 03, 2004 - 05:59 am: Edit

My story's pretty cute (yes, I said cute. *sigh* and I also saw Mean Girls tonight. I have problems). Anyways, my best friend was out of town all spring break, and I was at a friend's house with a ton of people and I'm talking to this really hot girl and somehow prom comes up and she says, "oh yeah, I'd love to go to prom with you" and I said something along the lines of, "actually I haven't really thought about it but I'll get back to you" (or that's what I remember saying).

Then, my best friend came back from Palm Springs a few days later and we were lying in her bed (don't get any ideas) and we were talking about our separate spring breaks. The convorsation went something like this:

Me: "Yeah, I got asked to prom by this really hot girl"
Her: "Oh, that's great! I hope you have a good time"
Me: "Well, actually I sort of told her that I already have a date"
Her: "Really? Who?"
Me: "You"

No worries. The "really hot girl" is going with another one of my good friends in our group. Haha, he's getting played so hard. Okay, I'm going to go get my balls re-attached.

By Drake (Drake) on Monday, May 03, 2004 - 07:20 pm: Edit

Oh man I know how you feel. Asking a stranger out on date is one of the hardest things I have ever done. My advice is to take along the flowers, but not a huge boquet (that might seem too extravagant to her) instead show her a nice rose. And ask calmly and confidently. YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

By Crypto86 (Crypto86) on Monday, May 03, 2004 - 07:32 pm: Edit

For our school (probably a lot now) asking a girl to prom isn't a "wanna go out with me" thing anymore. It's really just a fun occasion where friends go with each other. Of course, there are plenty of couples that do go together, but I know a lot of people who just go with their friends - just a fun dinner/dance occasion. I'm not going this year (can't afford it with other stuff going on...) but I'm only a junior so I got next year! Plus SAT IIs are the saturday after our prom (June 3 --> June 4) and I didn't want to stay up late and then ruin my phys grade - ha!

But to answer your call, I'd just ask her like it will be a fun occasion and such. I don't have a girlfriend now and I know how you feel on this (I'm not too good with asking girls on things like this either) but I'm sure if you ask one of your friends she would love to.