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My boyfriend is a year younger than me, and the college that I want to attend is 5 hours from where we live. Should I go to a school that is closer to home or should I go to the school that I want to go? I really don't care about going to a school that is closer. We have been dating for 15 months. What do you think I should do?

By Xenowang (Xenowang) on Tuesday, April 27, 2004 - 10:21 pm: Edit

I personally wouldn't allow my school decision to be determined by a high school relationship. If you're compromising where you're going to school for the next four years, then you really have to reanalyze where your priorities lie.

By Shaka (Shaka) on Tuesday, April 27, 2004 - 11:16 pm: Edit

yea...high school is just a fling...dun think too much of it...i know you may feel it's the real deal, but if it is, college location shouldn't affect it

By Kiwee (Kiwee) on Tuesday, April 27, 2004 - 11:25 pm: Edit

yea, high school relationships, sorry to say, but most dont last, and 15 months may sound liek a logn time, and yea it is, but there is still a big chance you guys will break up. Son't comprimise your future for it, and like Shaka said, if it's real, ur collge won't affect it. Besides, 5 hours is not that bad. I know two people who go to school 8 hours away and they have a great relationship. Good luck!

By Kathiep (Kathiep) on Wednesday, April 28, 2004 - 09:30 am: Edit

My daughter was in the same boat last year. She's in college 16 hours away. She was able to spend a lot of time with bf during the Christmas and Spring break and he came out to see her over a long Presidents' day break.

Right now they are "on a break", whatever that means, and they talk on the phone but are no longer as serious. Neither is dating anyone else but they were friends before they dated and I think they will remain friends even if they don't get back together. It'll all work out. The most telling sentence in your post is," I really don't care about going to a school that is closer." Sounds like you've already made up your mind.

By Kmw11187 (Kmw11187) on Saturday, May 01, 2004 - 04:51 pm: Edit

I'm with Kiwee& Shaka, when you start college, you will be meeting all sorts of new, interesting people. this boyfriend could last or maybe it won't but don't comprimise your college plans on that premise. just like mentioned above, if its real college really won't affect it.

By Dreamergirl05 (Dreamergirl05) on Wednesday, May 05, 2004 - 08:26 pm: Edit

I found out yesterday he got arrested for something stupid, but I still have feelings for him. He also told me that I could have a choice of talking to him or not talking to him because he didn't want to give me a bad reputation. What should I do?

By Kewlkiwi102 (Kewlkiwi102) on Wednesday, May 05, 2004 - 08:35 pm: Edit

Er, dont stop talking to him but take it as an opportunity to begin to drift apart. That way you wont have to break up or try for a long distance relationship in the fall, and still be friends.

By Boop1750erin (Boop1750erin) on Monday, July 26, 2004 - 12:25 pm: Edit

Dreamgirl- You should not let a guy determine what school you go to. I too was dealing with this same issue when I was deciding what school to go to. Ultimatly you have to think about that your education. School is more important than any guy and if he is acting stupid then you know that he is not dependable so you should go and better yourself and if he is the one then he will wait for you.