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can somebody help me find a creative way to ask my crush to senior prom?

By Memememe (Memememe) on Sunday, March 14, 2004 - 02:29 am: Edit

Yeah. Go up and ask.

By Zephyrmaster (Zephyrmaster) on Sunday, March 14, 2004 - 03:51 am: Edit

Really depends on if you think you can guess her response. If she may quite possibily say "No way!" or just a simple no, then I would just privately ask her. No fuss. If you think she would say yes, then I suppose a creative strategy like a banner during an assembly, flowers, whatever would be clever. I guess logically you could try to coerce them into saying yes by asking them publicly, but that's not nice or smart. O_O... I need sleep, sorry if I'm just rambling! :p

By Y17k (Y17k) on Sunday, March 14, 2004 - 04:49 am: Edit

from ur name i can see that you're asian.

and im also going to assume that ur crush is a white female, in whcih case, there is a 99% she'll say no.

By Britbrat8604 (Britbrat8604) on Sunday, March 14, 2004 - 05:04 am: Edit

What the heck does race have anything to do with it???

By Silent_Angel (Silent_Angel) on Sunday, March 14, 2004 - 10:26 am: Edit

Y17K- bad experiences?

By Antigone (Antigone) on Sunday, March 14, 2004 - 11:20 am: Edit

just do it and ask. I asked someone last year and got turned down and I'm still alive. I even have a boyfriend now (oh my god!) so you won't die from rejection. Just give it a shot.

By Madhouse (Madhouse) on Sunday, March 14, 2004 - 12:16 pm: Edit

"Y17K- bad experiences?"

haha, Y17K, i feel sorry for u man....

By Madhouse (Madhouse) on Sunday, March 14, 2004 - 12:18 pm: Edit

"from ur name i can see that you're asian.

and im also going to assume that ur crush is a white female, in whcih case, there is a 99% she'll say no."

dont u guys think this is a sterotype & insult to the asian guys????

By Memememe (Memememe) on Sunday, March 14, 2004 - 02:17 pm: Edit

Y17K seems to have an Asian name, too.

Get this, though. Asians are generally seen as nerdy, clueless, anti-social, and vapid. However, if you're not any of the above, I don't see why someone would say no. Maybe it's a 99% chance for some people, but for other Asians, it's probably 99% the other way around. It's not a common theme. If you have a sense of humor, a good personality, and are tolerably attractive (which describes a lot of Asians, as well as non-Asians), people will like you a lot.

By Daonesteven (Daonesteven) on Sunday, March 14, 2004 - 07:11 pm: Edit

well y17k did guess my asian heritage, didn't guess the girl's race however, she's actually asian also.

i do have a feeling she'll say yes, because i've hella told her friends that i plan to ask her and they said i have a very good chance and they encourage me, etc.

Wow, that banner during assembly seems a little too blatant....i can't possibly do something that big, maybe like decorate her car so she see si aftter school or like....i dunno, something big but not too blatant at the same time...

By Wo4567 (Wo4567) on Sunday, March 14, 2004 - 07:24 pm: Edit

btw... many white girls like asian guys *cough* my b/f is asian *cough* if she's asian... well... two of my best friends are asian and they dont date asian guys... something to do with rebellion... sorry dude.
however, my opinion: just do it. from a female perspective... we dont like it (well I dont) if you're timid about it, it shows weakness which most women do not like.

By Chimmortal (Chimmortal) on Sunday, March 14, 2004 - 07:26 pm: Edit

Just ask her, no need to make it into a big occasion. If I saw someone make a banner or decorated a car just to ask someone out to prom, I would think they were a loser. And even if this girl rejects you, ask another one. There's plenty of girls that want to go to prom. Here's my prom-asking experience from this year.
1. I asked a girl. She said she already had a date, so I moved on.
2. I asked another girl and she accepted. However, I'm no longer going with her. She got banned from prom because she got arrested for drinking twice in two weeks haha.
3. I asked a girl from a different school last week(less than 3 weeks before prom) and she accepted.

In summation: Just ask the girl out. If you make it a big spectacle and get rejected, your rep will go down and you'll have a hard time getting a different date.

By Fhmamii (Fhmamii) on Sunday, March 14, 2004 - 07:44 pm: Edit

yayyy i can't wait for Prom!!!

By Anothersuitcase (Anothersuitcase) on Sunday, March 14, 2004 - 07:47 pm: Edit

OH NO DON'T MAKE A BIG SCENE

A boy I knew, who was wrongly encouraged to ask me out by my friends (I didn't like him at all), approached me with a rose and, in front of the entire cafeteria, asked if I would like to go to the movies with him. I stuttered for five minutes trying to figure out how to politely say, "No." It was mortifying for both of us.

By Myway (Myway) on Sunday, March 14, 2004 - 08:19 pm: Edit

Yes, I agree with the just ask part. Don't make any small talk either. And I suggest you do it in private. Just say something like, "Hey, do you mind if I ask you something?" She'll say, okay... Then just say, "So I was wondering if you wanted to go to prom with me."

Personally, that's how I'd like to be asked. Though, I know that other girls prefer the whole flowers in the locker/notes thing. But personally, I like this method because it's straightforward and shows confidence. And if she says no, at least no one else was around, you didn't waste efforts doing something "cute," and you didn't waste too much of her time.

I know this is stupid, but kinda true: KISS - Keep it simple, stupid.

I wish you the best of luck. Let us know how it goes.

By Daonesteven (Daonesteven) on Sunday, March 14, 2004 - 09:54 pm: Edit

LOL this forum is great

so you guys think i should just go to her with a bouquet of roses like after school when she comes to her car and ask her? just simple as that right?

i guess that's cool too

yea sure, ill definitely let everyone know how this goes...but ill be assking her like around april 1st, somewhere around there, so hang tight

By J0h (J0h) on Monday, March 15, 2004 - 01:04 am: Edit

good luck steven. lemme know how it goes.

By Zephyrmaster (Zephyrmaster) on Monday, March 15, 2004 - 09:34 am: Edit

yea sure, ill definitely let everyone know how this goes...but ill be assking her like around april 1st, somewhere around there, so hang tight

April 1st? Trying to send a message eh? eh? ;-)

By Nyapplicant (Nyapplicant) on Monday, March 15, 2004 - 08:59 pm: Edit

i'd definately not wait until april 1. you may just lose out. heh im really timid and after liek 2 weeks of freaking out i realized if i didnt ask who i wanted to by the end of the week she'd be taken. so i did and she accepted, just like that. no crazy stuff, just found her after school and asked straightforward and got a straightforward yes back.

good luck.

By Summoner (Summoner) on Monday, March 15, 2004 - 09:09 pm: Edit

nyapplicants, but have they even started selling prom tickets at your school?

By Nyapplicant (Nyapplicant) on Tuesday, March 16, 2004 - 12:29 am: Edit

no. i was just very attracted to someone fairly popular and knew it was only a short matter of time before someone else would ask her. heh and i had a friend who kept kicking me in the ass to do it, or else i woulda lost my opportunity. Most people who are going to prom have dates by now at my school-- therefore most people are now taken. which is why i suggest you take quick action so you don't lose out on who you want to go with.

By Welshie (Welshie) on Tuesday, March 16, 2004 - 01:43 am: Edit

Courage + suit of armor + flowers + sharp sword = prom date fo sho.

By Lame (Lame) on Tuesday, March 16, 2004 - 01:56 am: Edit

Don't forget white stallion.

By Welshie (Welshie) on Tuesday, March 16, 2004 - 02:07 am: Edit

Too obtrusive and aggressive, better opt for the pony-headed stick.

-Jesse

By Daonesteven (Daonesteven) on Tuesday, March 16, 2004 - 02:46 am: Edit

but our senior prom is in june i think, or late may, i would think april 1st is realy early...

By Sleepdeprived (Sleepdeprived) on Wednesday, March 17, 2004 - 04:41 am: Edit

It's best not to make a huge scene with bells and whistles b/c you are ASKING her and not ASSUMING that she will say yes (even if she probably will). A simple, romantic gesture like a long-stemmed rose and a honest request would be really sweet and respectful.

By Joker69 (Joker69) on Sunday, March 28, 2004 - 07:30 pm: Edit

i need help on a very creative way to ask out my girlfriend to prom. i'm not very creative although i have thought of a couple ideas, but i need a really good one that she will remember. please help!!