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I personally mostly agree with the opinions on nomarriage.com. I don't really see myself finding someone that I want to spend 50 years of my life with. Unless they were close to perfect, I think they'd get annoying and I'd want someone better. What are all of your opinions? Marriage or no?

By Welshie (Welshie) on Thursday, March 11, 2004 - 07:20 pm: Edit

I'm down with marriage but, like you said, it'd have to be with someone near perfect [for me]. I don't feel the desire to rush into it like some folks and I hope the time comes for me after college, I don't want to be a financial burden to my family/wife.

-Jesse

By Zephyrmaster (Zephyrmaster) on Thursday, March 11, 2004 - 07:27 pm: Edit

I want marriage, I want babies! But yes, no rushing into something like this. 50% end in divorce? That's horrible. Going to try to do it right the first time. :p

By Chimmortal (Chimmortal) on Thursday, March 11, 2004 - 07:46 pm: Edit

And another half of the 50% that stay married are unhappy.

By Welshie (Welshie) on Thursday, March 11, 2004 - 07:50 pm: Edit

I suppose my parents are an anomaly?

By Thedad (Thedad) on Thursday, March 11, 2004 - 07:51 pm: Edit

The quest for perfection, either in other or by others for you, is doomed to failure. Which does not mean that all is hopeless or pointless.

In one of the more meandering threads in the Parents Forum, it's been noted that an *extreme* number of parents on this board have been married 22, 25, 30 years and most have offspring who are the typical uber-achieving kids that infest this place.

Considering that people inevitably change as they grow, I think people often choose to marry for the wrong reasons. I also think it would be helpful if people didn't get married until they were 25...that's about the age when a lot of people really begin to know themselves.

By Silent_Angel (Silent_Angel) on Thursday, March 11, 2004 - 08:37 pm: Edit

i want to get married.. im still iffy on the children issue though. i dont think i could handle kids.. perhaps just one will do. but i am sure wanting to graduate and find a job before i even have kids. Im not too worried bout marriage. i dont believe in divorces in general except sometimes they are needed. I'd be happy (if i cant find a "mate" by like 30 or 32) to find a nice woman and live with her. not have romatic feelings or n e thing but respect and such. i know i dont want to grow old alone but im not on the prowl for a husband... im only 17... im on the prowl for someone i can have fun with and just chill

By Radiostar (Radiostar) on Thursday, March 11, 2004 - 08:41 pm: Edit

I would only get married for children.

Or money.

Or children made out of money.

By Enlightenment (Enlightenment) on Thursday, March 11, 2004 - 08:52 pm: Edit

I'm going to get married, I already know who I'm marrying

By Silent_Angel (Silent_Angel) on Thursday, March 11, 2004 - 08:55 pm: Edit

my god ur 16!!!! thats reallllllly young.. why would u wanna be tied down that early? thats a big decision for that age. hell im tryin to master makin the decision on what to wear and what matches each day... jeepeez

By Usunkmyb_Ship (Usunkmyb_Ship) on Thursday, March 11, 2004 - 10:59 pm: Edit

This girl in my class got married in November and Beyonce Knowles 17 year old sister got married last week to some college football player. It's like everyone is growing up so fast except me:/ Geez but I agree I would get sick of seeing the same person after how many years. I want my own bedroom if I get married, heh.

By Polka (Polka) on Friday, March 12, 2004 - 01:31 am: Edit

i don't see myself ever getting married because:
a) i can't stand other people
b) i am super picky
c) i can't stand being tied down to anything for too long
d) pregnancy/childbirth
e) children
f) my taste in men

By Cali_Rose (Cali_Rose) on Saturday, March 27, 2004 - 07:28 am: Edit

I probably won't get married until after graduate school, which will be around 27-30. Definitely won't start a family until I've started my career and am financially secure.

I do want to get married, though. I think if you know yourself and what you're looking for, then you'll be able to find the right person and everything will fall into place.

By U2rules (U2rules) on Saturday, March 27, 2004 - 10:09 am: Edit

i want to get married at 30 when hopefully i can support 1.
i want at least 3 kids.
want to maximze the dating experience and then settle down.
yea and my wife should be a virgin

By Mazzo (Mazzo) on Saturday, March 27, 2004 - 02:11 pm: Edit

uh astrologically im not "suited" for marriage. according to the allignment of the planets on the day i was born, i am destined to lead a life of promiscuity and non-commitment. yay

By Gianscolere (Gianscolere) on Saturday, March 27, 2004 - 02:25 pm: Edit

i think someone looking to get married should be in a steady relationship for at least 3 years before they get married...3 years is enough time for partners to reveal their true colors and to test the waters of marriage. my cousin maintained her boyfriend for 10 years, and they're getting married next fall. she dated him when she was 18 and she's now 28

By Slayer (Slayer) on Saturday, March 27, 2004 - 07:48 pm: Edit

I want to get married around age 24-26. And I want 3 kids.

By Brownlovespink (Brownlovespink) on Sunday, March 28, 2004 - 09:23 pm: Edit

I'm not sure if i want to get married, but I want seven children, preferably through adoption. I'm somewhat anti-establishment, but I love weddings (sh! I know it sounds really bimbo-ish).

By Mychocopie (Mychocopie) on Sunday, March 28, 2004 - 09:57 pm: Edit

Ehh.. I cant even picture marriage at this poin t -- I am 17 and have not even had my 1st kiss! Anyway, I would like to get married. Prefrably to a hot asian/american guy who would love to move to Japan with me, raise bilingual children, and support me in my goal to become one of the first american women in a position of power in a Japanese company.

haha, I am way too picky. Itll probably never happen like that anyway -- you know how things end up -- usually totally different from what you expected.

Ahh.. nice to dream about it anyway ^___^

By Purgeofdoors (Purgeofdoors) on Sunday, March 28, 2004 - 11:09 pm: Edit

"yea and my wife should be a virgin"

Whoa... child marriage is illegal in most US states and greatly looked down upon throughout the country.

By Zephyrmaster (Zephyrmaster) on Sunday, March 28, 2004 - 11:17 pm: Edit

I plan too, eventually, I think. I want kids.

By Crnchycereal (Crnchycereal) on Sunday, March 28, 2004 - 11:18 pm: Edit

Purge, no need to take your cynicism so far. While it's true that the vast majority of adults in this country are not virgins at the time of marriage, some people still maintain their wish to do so. That's something you should respect and not attack with sarcasm.

By Purgeofdoors (Purgeofdoors) on Monday, March 29, 2004 - 05:48 pm: Edit

I think you misunderstood the sarcasm. I highly respect anyone with those standards, but they have a tendency to lead down the road of pain, depression, detachment, and ultimate disillusionment.

<-- speaks from experience

By Jsberting (Jsberting) on Monday, March 29, 2004 - 06:50 pm: Edit

cheat on your wife.

By Neo (Neo) on Tuesday, March 30, 2004 - 07:01 pm: Edit

This is turning into that thread from last night.