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Hey is anyone in here 16 yrs old and never have a girlfriend/boyfriend? hehe sorry, some of you will flame me, but im just wonderin

By Number9 (Number9) on Wednesday, May 28, 2003 - 03:37 pm: Edit

not really per se...Ive had some romances, but ive never considered them girlfriends!

Ive just been too busy most of the time really...

Dont worry -- You may not have that experience, but you don't have to put up with the inconvience and money problems of a relationship either.

The cons outweigh the pros for me, and thats another reason I havent considered it, albeit offered.

Best not to get involved in romance now, if you really want to get go to a nice college and such. You might make a decision based upon your heart instead of with your brain and lose out on a big opportunity just because of someone.


:-\

By Annami (Annami) on Wednesday, May 28, 2003 - 04:40 pm: Edit

Nice way to put in number9 - I too have had my romances but nothing serious.

Don't worry about it if you find someone you find someone if you don't you don't. Probably the majority of people in my school have not had a serious relationship.

Focus on having fun and on school. Relax - desperation is a very unattractive trait anyway!

By Evekarma (Evekarma) on Wednesday, May 28, 2003 - 07:03 pm: Edit

I've only had one boyfriend (okay, that's a lie...there's another in the works), and it didn't happen until I was almost seventeen. I wouldn't worry about it too much...honestly, the reason my boyfriend and I broke up was because of the eternal question: "What do we do when I graduate high school?" He's in the Army and I'm a junior in HS...the possibilities got to the best of us and we realized we couldn't handle it.

So like I said, don't worry about it too much. They always say romance is much better if you have to wait for it... ;)

By Aj61498 (Aj61498) on Wednesday, May 28, 2003 - 10:14 pm: Edit

thanks everyone, it made my day.

By Cuponoodles (Cuponoodles) on Thursday, May 29, 2003 - 06:46 pm: Edit

Why? You wanted to find out that you weren't a loser? Don't worry.

I've had the g/fs back in the day, but I honestly have no time or money for one right now.

By Chen (Chen) on Thursday, May 29, 2003 - 10:51 pm: Edit

Yup, but loser? no. It's easy to lapse into moments of really wanting a boyfriend/girlfriend to not because of hormones, but I'm on the same track as all of the above. They're usually not very serious like everyone said, so how does that change you as a person?

By Elazar (Elazar) on Thursday, May 29, 2003 - 11:34 pm: Edit

I haven't gone on a date because my parents made me promiss that I wouldn't date untill after high school. Well I kept it, and that was the best decition that I made. I'm graduating in a week. I know that if I were tied up in a relationship, I woulnd't be a ble to focus on what I was realy supposed to be doing.
I don't regret not ever going out.

By Texas137 (Texas137) on Friday, May 30, 2003 - 07:46 am: Edit

My son is 16. Looking at his circle of friends, a few of them have had a boyfriend/girlfriend but most of them (esp. the boys) don't seem interested..

By Sunshine916 (Sunshine916) on Friday, May 30, 2003 - 08:48 pm: Edit

im 16 now. trust me, most of us are going nuts with school. past relationships just turned out all wrong because neither of us had time for each other. dating shouldnt be your priority in high school. doing well in school should. you can worry about dating in college...

By Saera (Saera) on Saturday, May 31, 2003 - 09:57 pm: Edit

*raises hand* I'm sixteen and I've never had a boyfriend...it's kind of depressing sometimes (like when my friends ignore me in favor of their bf/gf) but it's not that bad...most of the people at my school are not my type at all anyway, so it doesn't really bother me.

By Fiza (Fiza) on Wednesday, June 11, 2003 - 09:54 pm: Edit

im 17 and have only kissed one person during one game of spin the bottle (he was our prom king/prince this year and the ex-and i guess still-LOVE OF MY LIFE) and also had one bf 2 years back who i never kissed. DONT FEEL BAD!

By Number9 (Number9) on Thursday, June 12, 2003 - 03:21 pm: Edit

Its funny -- Ive never been kissed, but I've had more risqué things done than kissing. I don't mean sex of any kind, just more sexual than kissing...

By Dxiw (Dxiw) on Thursday, June 12, 2003 - 05:52 pm: Edit

lol just say it. you got head. Goood job man.

By Number9 (Number9) on Thursday, June 12, 2003 - 08:10 pm: Edit

nah, didnt.

By Ughstinkysocks (Ughstinkysocks) on Friday, June 13, 2003 - 04:23 pm: Edit

haha.. had flings (stuff on debate trips)... no bf b/c my parents are brown and they would FREAK!!...

By Ariesathena (Ariesathena) on Monday, June 16, 2003 - 01:50 am: Edit

I didn't kiss anyone until I was 18 and a week away from starting college... I wish I had waited longer, the guy was possessive and insecure. My sophomore year roomie hasn't been kissed or had a bf... she's a sweetie, it's unfortunate.

By Me1 (Me1) on Monday, June 16, 2003 - 12:31 pm: Edit

I'm 16 (I will be 17 in 3 weeks) & I've never had a boyfriend. I've never been on a date or kissed a guy or anything remotely close to having a bf. *cries*

By Madrigal (Madrigal) on Monday, June 16, 2003 - 04:55 pm: Edit

Same girlfriend for 2 years, 9 months--still do well in school. Oh, well. You guys will find someone. I'm a lucky bastard.

By Chen (Chen) on Monday, June 16, 2003 - 08:51 pm: Edit

lol, me1. It's not pitiful at all. It could be due to so many reasons, not how blond you are, how funny you are, whatever. You're probably still beautiful with a beautiful soul and a pretty outside. why should the possibility of someone liking another person change that person's value as a human? i look at a friend or 2 and see how she has changed because of a boyfriend or girlfriend - it's disgusting, but yeah, it can be cute sometimes. oh well, things change

By Yz16 (Yz16) on Thursday, June 19, 2003 - 02:21 pm: Edit

got kissed (only the second time) today mmmm-yum! : ) ... dreamy as heck.

but hey, all that not having a bf/gf means is that you don't have one. It has nothing to do with your looks or 'desirability'. really. It's a bad decision to make if you latch on to a guy for the sake of having a bf.

By Spooks42 (Spooks42) on Thursday, July 10, 2003 - 04:52 am: Edit

I'm 16 as well, and i've never been in a serious relationship, hell, i cant even seem to keep friends for a very long time. The closest i have gotten to intimace was when i went to my freshman homecoming dance with a really good guy friend (well, i kissed a boy on the cheek in kindergarten, and he ran away; but that dosen't count).
I really think that relatioinships durring school can get in the way, especially if you want to do your very best; you should concentrate more on your future rather than the cute guy sitting next to you in Biology.

By Number9 (Number9) on Thursday, July 10, 2003 - 12:56 pm: Edit

I just laugh at the mindless girls who sit and cry and cry about a guy doing something.

I dont understand it.

Youre not going to see him after college unless you seriously want to screw up your life, why are you crying?

Maybe things dont bother me as much...

By Gianscolere (Gianscolere) on Thursday, July 10, 2003 - 01:31 pm: Edit

I haven't had one and am not planning to have one in the near future.

By Serene (Serene) on Thursday, July 10, 2003 - 01:36 pm: Edit

Number9: don't attack girls only. Guys mope around too. =)


as for myself, didn't get a boyfriend until 3 wks before I turned 17. Prepared for college extra-hard just to get in the same college as he. See what benefits dating can have! =)

By Magicdragonfly (Magicdragonfly) on Thursday, July 10, 2003 - 07:13 pm: Edit

hmm..I had my first boyfriend @ 16...I was very reluctant to get involved with him..people have been a bit..evil to me..heh..I really don't think having relationships @ a high school level and expecting it to last is too smart..heh..it's almost impossible..and..whatever happened to dating? around where I live people don't DATE..they are either friends or they are boyfriend and girlfriend- silly people...And I know lots that have those 1 week relationships w/ people they don't even know..now..if they dated..they'd avoid that

By Magicdragonfly (Magicdragonfly) on Thursday, July 10, 2003 - 07:18 pm: Edit

Friendwise..This year I met a few people that I'll probably keep as lifelong friends..one of them I'd have to hurt myself if I allowed myself to get out of touch with..just because he is a really good person. I did a stupid thing and became close friends with a lot of seniors though..that sucked..I have one friend that I talk to online all the time..I've known him since 8th grade..we go to different high schools..I've seen him a few times..then he decided that it was cheating on his girlfriend(they've been going out for like 2 years...) to hang out with me *if you are reading this: ::glares::*...but we still talk online..so..it's all good (I can't believe I just said that)
..mm..uh..first was a bit misleading..I've only had one..heh..
which is unfortunate..I miss cuddling....and I haven't lost my need (always had it..) to be held sometimes..just have to deal w/ it I guess.