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We drove our D. back to school the other week. Enter the dorm. The room was hot, clammy*. Both girls were a bit messy so there was stuff around.
Two friends were in there visiting and playing a joke with a smelly pizza box. We could barely move around. And as soon as we got there my daughters face LIT UP as she hugged one of her friends! And seemed oblivious to the rest of it.
Feels so good to know we made the right choice.

*clammy..yes I bought the VORNADO fan recommended here and she says even though room is clammy its still better than all the others thanks to the fan!

By Anxiousmom (Anxiousmom) on Sunday, October 10, 2004 - 11:14 pm: Edit

..... when you keep expecting to get those, "Mom, I have a big paper to write, and the food sucks, and I really want to come home." phone calls, but all you ever get are the, "Mom, I just had the greatest talk with my professor, and I'm going to be doing research on.. and I had the greatest time at..., and I'm really busy but I feel great..." phone calls.

By Emeraldkity4 (Emeraldkity4) on Sunday, October 10, 2004 - 11:27 pm: Edit

when they start referring to going back "home" and they don't mean with you.


as far as clammy goes, she could get some of those chemical pellets used for removing moisture from air like in summer cabins, that is if there is too much humidity.

By Binx (Binx) on Monday, October 11, 2004 - 03:49 am: Edit

... I asked S what he wanted for Christmas and he said, "I want to go to ..." and named his school.

(I told him we weren't thinking of spending that much.)

By Thumper1 (Thumper1) on Monday, October 11, 2004 - 07:49 am: Edit

>>she could get some of those chemical pellets used for removing moisture from air like in summer cabins>>

Oh my...DS had those last year. I wonder what we did with them??? They reportedly absorb odors too. It was unders DS's bed last year and we brought it home. Hm....maybe I can find it before parents weekend!

By Pamvanw (Pamvanw) on Monday, October 11, 2004 - 07:58 am: Edit

When they graduate with 2 job offers & take the one with less money because they get to stay near their school. Actually it was a terrific job offer, in a more interesting field, but she was THRILLED that it is in Charlottesville. Her comment was "I don't see any reason to ever leave Virginia."

By Thumper1 (Thumper1) on Monday, October 11, 2004 - 08:25 am: Edit

You know your child made the right choice...when it is a long weekend, and they come home but only for PART of the long weekend. Also...when their exams end and they want to stay until everyone else's exams end.

By Angstridden (Angstridden) on Monday, October 11, 2004 - 08:53 am: Edit

You know that is her only complaint..the food..she says its awful. The food workers dont close the bags so the bread for sandwhiches is stale. Most food is fried etc.
She is a picky eater and very health conscious. I was all set to call food services but then thought better of it..
She should call if she wants too.

By Aparent4 (Aparent4) on Monday, October 11, 2004 - 08:54 am: Edit

When she is put into an overcrowded suite that has this mom venting on cc, then the university offers her and any of her roomies the chance to move...and they are so happy and so immersed in everything that they turn down the offer.

By Fendergirl (Fendergirl) on Monday, October 11, 2004 - 11:35 am: Edit

haha.. I have been referring to my school as home for four years now.. my mom asked me what i was doing once when i was at "home" and i was like oh i'm packing to go home.. and she was like whattttttttttttt!!

By Angstridden (Angstridden) on Monday, October 11, 2004 - 11:38 am: Edit

you know my D. was at the home she has lived in for many years visiting (where her family lives) and she said something about "going home"!
I was kinda offended. I thought she was home..
But it looks like its a normal thing to refer to the college as home..

By Fendergirl (Fendergirl) on Monday, October 11, 2004 - 12:05 pm: Edit

well look at it this way.. i'll explain my views on it..

this is my fourth year here. i live here, in my apartment, with four other girls. i am here 8 months out of 12, and at "home" for 4 months of the 12.

i go away on a vacation to NYC every year for fall break (I leave on friday- yay! i haven't been there since my 21st birthday). i also go down to Florida for my first spring break with Habitat for Humanity to build houses, and normally over christmas break i head up to NYC for a week, plus i come out here for a week and house sit.. so really i'm only home a week or two then.

By Cangel (Cangel) on Monday, October 11, 2004 - 12:57 pm: Edit

Being offended, reminds me. Many years ago I remember coming home from college and offending my Mom to no end. I went to school in a smallt town where the college kids outnumbered the inhabitants almost 3 to 1, plus there was a large military base close by, full of young soldiers.
I came home to Mom at the end of the first year, and said, actually innocnetly "everybody looks so OLD, and there's so many children everywhere!". Somehow, she didn't appreciate that!

By Theirish (Theirish) on Monday, October 11, 2004 - 02:58 pm: Edit

When you travel 1200 miles to see your daughter on parents' weekend, spend 3 hours in traffic trying to get through Chicago and another 3 hours of traffic because of construction on the Indiana Toll Road to get to South Bend - you finally arrive and call to tell her you are there and she asks if it is ok for her to go to dinner with her friend and her friend's parents because it is the friend's birthday. Do you say no, we came to see you, or say yes, knowing she wouldn't be happy being with you because she would be missing the bday dinner with a bunch of her friends. Boy.. was that heart breaking.. I have to keep telling myself that means she is happy there but it hasn't been easy.

By Garland (Garland) on Monday, October 11, 2004 - 03:28 pm: Edit

Theirish: I feel for you. That must have been really tough. You would think that the other parents might have scheduled a bday dinner w/ friends some time that other parents weren't expected. It just doesn't seem that thoughtful.

By Artiesdad (Artiesdad) on Monday, October 11, 2004 - 03:35 pm: Edit

...when yout get a call at 6 AM in New Yersey that starts "Hey Dad" - scaring the daylight out of you - but continues "I am walking to the house from the Chem Lab. I was working on the proposal for the summer internship. I know you wake up early so I wanted to say hi!"...he goes to school in California

By Sybbie719 (Sybbie719) on Monday, October 11, 2004 - 03:51 pm: Edit

That is so nice, I am gushing all over. Once he told you that, I bet you even forgot about what time it was

By Searchingavalon (Searchingavalon) on Monday, October 11, 2004 - 05:38 pm: Edit

Theirish, OUCH!!! I'm sure that was heartbreaking and I hope the rest of the weekend was better. Was there any way you could have invited yourself along to the birthday dinner? That way you could have at least feasted your eyes on your D even if she was otherwise involved, and perhaps the parents of the birthday child would have been grateful to have another adult to talk to.

By Momstheword (Momstheword) on Monday, October 11, 2004 - 06:26 pm: Edit

...when your D calls just to wax enthusiastically about the "best" lecture that she's just come away from and about some "incredibly inspiring" speaker that she saw the previous evening and how her econ professor is "sooo quirky but brilliant and amazing."

By Angstridden (Angstridden) on Monday, October 11, 2004 - 06:32 pm: Edit

We had this idea to take her out to dinner after the UMD football game. Uh gee.. 50 some thousand people seemed to have a similar idea at least they were trying to get out of the game ..
Took us about an a LOOOOOOONG time to go 10 minutes..but we made it!
On another note I was stunned to discover I have a bad case of vertigo as I tried to sit in our parents weekend football seats! Way high very pitched..couldnt do it...