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My parents always talked about getting a divorce, so much that it became a joking matter. We would drive by a billboard advertising “1-800-DIVORCE” and my father would jokingly comment about calling. Obviously, I never thought my parents would actually go through with it, until they did...
The separation of my parents marriage started my sophomore year of high school. My parents were constantly arguing and I, being the only child, was always caught in the middle.
After my parents got divorced my mother decided to move to Miami, FL in order to start a new life for herself. She wanted me to go with her but she wasn’t even sure how she would support herself, let alone, support me as well. My father figured it would be best if I stayed with him and his girlfriend, promising I could visit my mother every major holiday.
The day the moving truck arrived I was a sentimental mess. I felt as though someone was slowly cutting my arm off as I helped carry out my mother’s furniture. I will never forget waving goodbye to my mother, submersed in tears, waiting and wishing the truck would turn around, bringing my mother back to me.
My mother missed some important years of my life. She was not there to help me get ready for my first prom, nor tell me to study for the SATs. What saddens me the most is that she won’t be able to “miss” me when I go away to college, we won’t sincerely cry during move-in day because we have already been through that.
My mother being 1000 miles away from me has made me a very independent person. I am not afraid to be away from my parents. I love them both dearly, but I know I can survive on my own. I now study because I want to get good grades and meet my goals not because my mother tells me to. I am much more self-motivated.
I have had to grow up a lot sooner than other people my age. I believe that obstacles exist to make people stronger and I have come out of my parents divorce a better person.

By Achat (Achat) on Sunday, October 03, 2004 - 07:18 pm: Edit

You don't sound like you are wallowing in self-pity so this might work. I've seen examples of essays here where parents give advice to not air your personal problems in a college essay. But you sound like a normal teenager who is saying that he/she has grown stronger because of this, so it might work.

I would still advice you to use examples to illustrate how you are stronger and more self-reliant now than just saying you are stronger and independent.

By Momsdream (Momsdream) on Sunday, October 03, 2004 - 07:29 pm: Edit

That made me very sad. That's my comment on it...
A mom moving away from her child? If any female adcoms read this...look out....it's torture.

Anyhow, "parents marriage" - should it be "parents' marriage"?

By Marite (Marite) on Sunday, October 03, 2004 - 08:08 pm: Edit

>>The separation of my parents marriage started my sophomore year of high school.>>

You mean the "disintegration of my parents' marriage."

>>The day the moving truck arrived I was a sentimental mess.>> You mean "emotional mess."

>>submersed in tears>> "submerged" or "drowning."

What is the word limit for this essay? If you have the space, I would concur with Achat: give a few more examples of how you have become stronger as a result of your mother's absence from your life. And what about your dad and his girlfriend? Did they pick up the roles your mom used to play in your life or did they pretty much leave you to fend for yourself?

By Collegerocks (Collegerocks) on Thursday, October 07, 2004 - 10:30 pm: Edit

bump!!