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By the time I leave for college next fall, I'll have been with my girlfriend for about 2 and a half years. We're not planning on breaking up before then and have a seemingly great relationship so far. (I'm a Senior, she's a Junior)--And therein lies the problem. We're wondering how it's really going to work when I go to college. The closest college I'm applying to is a 6 hour drive away, so it's not like I'll be able to drive back whenever I want. I'm not really looking for an answer to anything really, just maybe if other people have tried to keep a relationship going after high school and into college like this, what your advice might be, etc. Anything would be helpful I guess.

By Aim78 (Aim78) on Wednesday, September 22, 2004 - 10:02 pm: Edit

Well, you've got another year to go. With any luck you'll be broken up by then.

By Grapeful (Grapeful) on Wednesday, September 22, 2004 - 11:58 pm: Edit

Well, let me tell you my situation. I fell in love with my boyfriend my senior year and I am ashamed to admit that my plans of going out of state eventually went down the drain and I am now enrolled at my state university and not enjoying it all too well. My boyfriend and I are still together, but we hardly ever see each other and it's putting a strain on our relationship. I really don't even want to contemplate whether or not we're going to last.

But the point of my blab right here is that distance puts a rift in I'd say 98% of all relationships. You've been with your girlfriend for 2.5 years so maybe that gives you more stability. But I would just like to warn you to be prepared of the fact that you two might grow apart.

I'm so sorry, to be so negative, as I really don't even have experience in a long distance relationship. (Figured I'd just blab. Sorry) I just know that had I been 1000 miles apart from my boyfriend instead of the 3 miles we are now, we certainly would not have lasted.

Sad but true.

By Geniusash (Geniusash) on Thursday, September 23, 2004 - 03:59 am: Edit

My parents were high school sweethearts (she was a year younger) and they survived college seperation.

By Bumblebee83 (Bumblebee83) on Thursday, September 23, 2004 - 03:47 pm: Edit

It's possible, but hard. My bf and I lived 500 miles apart for abiut 6 months and it's not easy, it sucks in fact.
Most people don't plan on breaking up, it just happens. Just be prepared to struggle through that year if you're really serious about it.

By Shannon05 (Shannon05) on Thursday, September 23, 2004 - 05:44 pm: Edit

hey u can ask dr.phil at his website.

By Hhboyji (Hhboyji) on Friday, September 24, 2004 - 03:46 pm: Edit

My uncle and his girl friend met each other when my uncle wasnjunior and girl friend was sophomore; my uncle went to penn state, which is.. like 8-10 hours away by driving from where the girlfriend lived, but he ended up transferring to UVA, where his girlfriend went.

where are they now..? After all these years(7)...?

They were married this summer...

My point is, you're going to have to see how it's going to go. Don't worry about it yet. Let the time pass.

By Delfin (Delfin) on Saturday, September 25, 2004 - 11:31 pm: Edit

Don't worry too much about it. If it's meant to be, it'll happen. (Sheesh, that's cliche. Sorry.) Try and stay together, if things don't work out, then that'll be that. But it's definitely possible that it could work out. Good luck. I wish you the best of luck.

By Matth (Matth) on Monday, September 27, 2004 - 04:48 pm: Edit

You're worrying about this way too early. Most long distance relationships don't last. That's a fact. NO matter how many people tell you that they know friends who have lasted it out, it happens so rarely that you should never count on its success.

By Normandy6644 (Normandy6644) on Tuesday, September 28, 2004 - 09:59 pm: Edit

One thing to keep in mind is that it is common for people to break up during college and find their way back together afterwards. You just never know really.

By Avoidingwork (Avoidingwork) on Tuesday, September 28, 2004 - 11:40 pm: Edit

not only do most long distance relationships not last, but most relationships don't last

(just a little romantic pessimism)

By Zantedeschia (Zantedeschia) on Thursday, September 30, 2004 - 10:37 pm: Edit

I'm 3000 miles away from my boyfriend and it's hard but I don't plan on breaking up anytime soon. And before this I never believed long distance relationships could work either. But if it feels like it's worth a try, why not? Although you do realize it's still another year before you do go away and many things could happen before then?

By Legendofmax (Legendofmax) on Thursday, September 30, 2004 - 10:44 pm: Edit

I too live 3000 miles away from my girlfriend (hmmmm...!) and I feel that although the nature of a long-distance relationship is difficult, it's most definitely worth it if you feel devoted enough to the person. Before all of this, I was skeptical about long-distance, but one year is so small when you compare it to what could unfold later.

At least, you can make the wait more bearable until then by visiting each other by plane if possible =)

By Zantedeschia (Zantedeschia) on Thursday, September 30, 2004 - 11:13 pm: Edit

yea and a 6 hour drive is nothing compared to a 43hr one. lol

By Legendofmax (Legendofmax) on Thursday, September 30, 2004 - 11:15 pm: Edit

There are plenty of islands to go eloping at...

By Tagran86 (Tagran86) on Wednesday, October 06, 2004 - 05:25 pm: Edit

thanks everyone you've provided either optimistic hope or ... the alter.

By 1212 (1212) on Wednesday, October 06, 2004 - 06:49 pm: Edit

man u got it lucky, im a senior and shes a 6th grader...

By Piman3141 (Piman3141) on Wednesday, October 06, 2004 - 10:04 pm: Edit

im a senior citizen, she's a kindergardner. (is that how you spell it- and dont go, "No, it's spelled I-T") lol