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Hi,

I'm a freshman guy in a smaller dorm at my school where our "wing" of the hallway is close-knit and we all know most of each other well. Our wing is about 12 people (mostly girls).

I might be falling into a relationship with one of my neighbors. I've been cautioned by others that it might not be a good idea because if it does not work out, it might not be healthy to be so close. I might get jealous if I see some guy in her room and visa-vera. What do you guys think?

By Myway (Myway) on Sunday, October 10, 2004 - 11:59 am: Edit

Go for it. You can't live your life thinking "it might not work out." Because then no one would get married or date. It's entirely possible that it could work out. Good luck.

By Pookdogg (Pookdogg) on Sunday, October 10, 2004 - 08:08 pm: Edit

Alas, I'm going to say, don't go for it.

The year is still young, you probably don't really know her that well, your dorm is small, your floormates might find it awkward for them, and if it doesn't work out, everybody loses big time.

I could go on, but you get the general idea. In the end, it's all up to you. If you think you can make it work, and you're willing to deal with the potential consequences, then more power to ya!

By Musefinity (Musefinity) on Sunday, October 10, 2004 - 09:28 pm: Edit

I think as long as your mature about it you'll be fine. Understand that 98% of relationships don't work out if this one doesn't, and don't get petty about things. In short, don't resort to "high school" dating. Drama gets annoying.

By Daffodil22 (Daffodil22) on Sunday, October 10, 2004 - 09:54 pm: Edit

Mmm...already went throught the dorm dating this year. It's awkward afterwords, but then again, its awkward seeing anyone you just broke up with. You just have to be mature about it and keep jealousy in check.

I'm gonna have to agree with Myway. You never know until you try. Plus, even if it doesn't work out, you still have the memories.

Go for it.

By Dss (Dss) on Sunday, October 10, 2004 - 10:04 pm: Edit

Thanks for the advice people!

By Eyesclozedtight (Eyesclozedtight) on Monday, October 11, 2004 - 01:35 pm: Edit

wow i found myself in a very similar situation. my dorm neighbor and i sort of had a fling and we've hooked up a few times. everyone else on our floor sorta knows, but i decided that it probably wasn't the best idea. we're just friends and i realized that making our relationship based around a physical aspect of hooking up it was a really bad idea and would hurt us both in the long run. we both agreed we should focus on being friends rather than hooking up everytime the opportunity presents itself. floorcest can be a very dangerous thing, but if you know you like someone, then don't hold yourself back. however, if you're in a situation like i was you should definitely reevaluate your relationship stands.