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So I moved into my dorm on the 18th and so far things have been going really well. I seriously can't complain because I have good friends, good teachers and not to mention my RA is incredibly hott. Its just I am becoming obsessive. His room is right across the hall from me so we do talk quite a bit and he is always really kewl to talk to and everything. Its just I can't tell if some of the things he's doing is flirtatious or if he's just doing it to be a kewl RA. Like we have our door open pretty much all the time and he'll walk by and stop in and be totally kewl. He gives me candy if he has extra and is just super nice whenever I have a question, but then he'll leave and flip me off. Im just confused. I seriously doubt anything would ever happen with him just cuz he is my RA. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

By Yackityack (Yackityack) on Wednesday, September 29, 2004 - 11:26 pm: Edit

RA and resident romantic relationships = bad news for everybody.

By Coureur (Coureur) on Thursday, September 30, 2004 - 12:50 am: Edit

At most schools an RA is strictly forbidden to get involved with any of the dorm residents in his/her charge.

By Erosmalice (Erosmalice) on Thursday, September 30, 2004 - 01:38 am: Edit

RAs tend to be like this, nice, even to the same sex (creeps me out sometimes). Dont confuse being friendly with being flirty. The best way to avoid the wrath of a flirt is to go by what you hear, not what you see. Just imagine your RA is Oprah or Bill Gates, and if you still think he's flirting, hes most likely flirting!

What do you rate yourself on an unbiased scale of 10? From a guys point of view, considering we naturally think of sex every 15-30 seconds and kinky fantisies every 30-60 seconds, its his every fantasy to fall for a girl on his floor thats atleast over a 5. Why do you think GGW is still up and running. Demand baby!

We need to be charming, girls need to be seductive. Guys are much easier then girls, imho, so you pretty much have it cut out for you. Just quit the small talk and start slowly making your move. I recommend asking Google on "seducing women." Yes, I said women, not men. Because all those tips are written by men and its really what men are seduced to, not women (and vise-versa).

Although, you were warned. I however dont know the consequences for RAs. I also however dont know what the big deal is, this isnt high school anymore and hes only an RA, not a professor.

Either way, if you really "dig it" then go for it, but if this is some simple infatuation that you can get over by means of time, then patience is your answer. Besides, you could always build up the tension between the two of you and let it all explode like a baby shitting in his diaper during summer break.

Good luck. Oh yeah, you are over 18, right?

By Sfbbgurl (Sfbbgurl) on Thursday, September 30, 2004 - 02:58 am: Edit

I am over 18...and he is 20 right now...he said his birthday is coming up in the next few months. He is just sooo kewl and totally the type of guy I normally go for...duh! He doesn't seem to talk to many of the other girls on the floor except for me and my roommate. But we are convenient just cuz we are right across the hall from him. I dunno...im talking too much...again!

By Sfbbgurl (Sfbbgurl) on Thursday, September 30, 2004 - 03:17 am: Edit

as for how I rate myself on a scale of 1 to 10...hmmm...i dunno...maybe a 6 or so. I am about 5'7'' (tall for a girl) and fairly athletic looking, lean body (i dance). Ummm...I have blue eyes, blondish brown hair...okay i guess im done describing myself..but I think I am attractive.
I dont want to make a complete fool out of myself because I do have to live with him right there for the whole year! As for the thing mentioned about RA's not being allowed to date any students in his/her dorm...I am pretty sure its not at my school because I heard about another RA guy going out with one of his dorm girls. I just need advice on how to approach the situation and how to guage whether his actions are flirtatious or just his duties as an RA. Thanks for your help!

By Alan5 (Alan5) on Thursday, September 30, 2004 - 08:11 am: Edit

Wait until the end of the school to make your move. That way you both can escape for the summer before things get hairy in your dorm from the fall out of your affair.

By Megofou (Megofou) on Thursday, September 30, 2004 - 09:06 am: Edit

Or just walk up and say "I want you" next time...then shove him backward into his room and procede to pounce and ravage.

It might not work...but WHAT a story.

By Matth (Matth) on Thursday, September 30, 2004 - 06:40 pm: Edit

Sounds like he's acting like a typical RA and doing his job to make his floormates feel comfortable. You are probably reading more into it because you think he's hot. Even if your school forbids RAs from getting involved with people on their floor, it's still a bad idea. Look for someone else.

By Missegg (Missegg) on Thursday, September 30, 2004 - 10:05 pm: Edit

"...shove him backward into his room and procede to pounce and ravage."

I think pounce and ravage is going to be my favorite phrase now.

By Megofou (Megofou) on Friday, October 01, 2004 - 01:21 am: Edit

Missegg...see also:

tackle-grope

By Sfbbgurl (Sfbbgurl) on Saturday, October 02, 2004 - 04:05 pm: Edit

just to let you all know...I am pretty sure he has a girlfriend...so I am gonna back off! Not that I was doing anything before but now I have no reason to pursue him.