|By Sammywu (Sammywu) on Sunday, September 19, 2004 - 02:39 am: Edit|
My college career has started about 4 weeks. But I have absolutely no idea of how to ask girl out
Ppl say it is easy to meet girls in class, party, clubs.... Yeah, I have seen lots of them.
Ok,so when I see a girl I am interested, then what next???
|By Anglophile (Anglophile) on Sunday, September 19, 2004 - 02:55 am: Edit|
First start a conversation. You generally don't just walk up to a girl and say "hey! Wanna go to dinner?". If it's in class, sit next to her and ask a question about an assignment. At a party or club, starting with a compliment is always appreciated-- then start a conversation (usually by asking a question). Then when you've been talking a while, and you think she seems interested (hard to guage), ask if she'd like to get some coffee sometime. Ok, sounds easy right? Here's the tricky part. You have to be ready to take the hint that she isn't interested. Girls are polite, so it can be confusing to determine whether she's interested, or just waiting for you to go away. If you're not getting a good vibe, then leave her alone! There are a lot of dense pushy guys who can't take any kind of a hint and we hate that! For more advice on hints- try reading a book on body language or looking it up on the internet. Very interesting reading. Good luck And congratulations on being brave enough to ask girls out, it's not easy.
|By Aim78 (Aim78) on Sunday, September 19, 2004 - 03:03 am: Edit|
Don't overanalyze it. I'll give it to you straight. It's all about ice-breakers. But some people go WAY too far into it.
The best ice-breaker is the most simple. "Hi, I'm Sammy. What's your name?" Use it only after she takes notice of you, though. And don't approach her with your hand out or anything. Act like you're standing there for a different reason.
I give you this advice, but like everyone else, I suffer from the same problem. Everyone is insecure, though, so there's no need to be shy. I'm planning on putting the moves on a girl in my class soon. It'll start with a simple conversation, we'll end up going out and falling in love, then we'll break up painfully and never speak again. It will be wonderful.
|By Anglophile (Anglophile) on Sunday, September 19, 2004 - 03:07 am: Edit|
Do you think I overanalyzed it? Well, I probably did . LOL
|By Aim78 (Aim78) on Sunday, September 19, 2004 - 03:17 am: Edit|
Yes. You have to go with the flow. If you rehearse beforehand, and there's a change in the script, she's going to see right through you. Also, unless you're a great actor, rehearsed lines usually don't come out naturally. If you plan to say a certain line with the exact wording in mind, it'll probably come out a little differently, and then you'll stumble and confuse yourself.
But now I'm overanalyzing. Damn it.
Wait a second, you're a girl! You're working on a whole other level.
|By Anglophile (Anglophile) on Sunday, September 19, 2004 - 03:22 am: Edit|
Sorry, I didn't intend to suggest rehearsing. And don't worry, I have the bad habit of overanalyzing everything and it's contagious. Here's some simple advice though: practice makes perfect.
Hey! I thought a girl's opinion might be of some use on the subject thankyouverymuch LOL
|By Welshie (Welshie) on Sunday, September 19, 2004 - 03:35 am: Edit|
When in doubt, shroud the occasion in the veil of academic reasonings, aka, ask her to go to a play you are required to go to for a certain class, etc. I know that sort of thing will make dating at least a little easier for me because of my Honors requirements, required plays for my Writing class, and required concerts for Music class. There is a lot of crossover between the three which makes it even more efficient.
|By Thenarrator (Thenarrator) on Sunday, September 19, 2004 - 01:00 pm: Edit|
get em drunk
|By Megofou (Megofou) on Sunday, September 19, 2004 - 01:15 pm: Edit|
If you can really get up the courage, walk up and compliment her with a follow up asking out. I mean, if you're thinking of asking her out in the first place, she must have caught your attention somehow. Put that how into a nice opening and just go for it. One guy in my entire history of dating actually did this and it was the best thing ever. It shows you have major balls and that you're not afriad of her/her rejection (even if you are).
|By Sammywu (Sammywu) on Sunday, September 19, 2004 - 11:36 pm: Edit|
Thank U all!!!!
noW i know lots of stuff I didn't know.
Actually, the hardest part for me might be starting a conversation.
"walk up and compliment her " "starting with a compliment is always appreciated"
Can someone give me an example of what a compliment is like?
|By Hoo_29 (Hoo_29) on Sunday, September 19, 2004 - 11:51 pm: Edit|
Om, do you have any social skills at all? Get off CC and seriously get out more. You're 20! It's like a 13 year old problem
|By Jason817 (Jason817) on Monday, September 20, 2004 - 12:15 am: Edit|
I'm 18 and I dont think I've ever said more than 3 sentences to a girl without stuttering, looking away, blushing, etc
|By Sammywu (Sammywu) on Monday, September 20, 2004 - 12:55 am: Edit|
First, I am 18. I am a freshman in collge. Second, social skills from high school are no longer applicable in college. U don't see the same girls everyday like it is in high school.And it is easy to get to know them. But in college, everyone just left after class.
|By Anglophile (Anglophile) on Monday, September 20, 2004 - 01:11 am: Edit|
It's not rocket science. Sit next to the girl during class, find an excuse to talk to her/ask question, continue the conversation after class. You've got to move quickly so she isn't out the door before you get your nerve up. As far as compliments go, look for something distinctive like an unusual necklace(any jewelry), or perhaps a picture on her notebook. Maybe ask to look at her notes. Use your imagination and don't take it all so seriously. She probably won't bite-- unprovoked anyway.
|By Anglophile (Anglophile) on Monday, September 20, 2004 - 01:12 am: Edit|
Jason817-- you must be joking right?
|By Jason817 (Jason817) on Monday, September 20, 2004 - 01:16 am: Edit|
nope. I completely lose all my confidence when talking to a girl. I become self-conscious, quiet, and away from the conversation
|By Anglophile (Anglophile) on Monday, September 20, 2004 - 01:24 am: Edit|
Jason817, you can tell a lot about a person from their posts, and you really have no need to be shy. I've always thought you're kinda cute . But seriously, guys like you drive me crazy. Here's the lowdown-- girls like attention. WE WILL NOT ATTACK. However, we do lose respect for guys who don't have enough self confidence to initiate a conversation.
|By Jason817 (Jason817) on Monday, September 20, 2004 - 12:49 pm: Edit|
thanks . Yeah, I know its a real problem that I have to fix.
|By Demonllama (Demonllama) on Monday, September 20, 2004 - 03:55 pm: Edit|
us girls don't bite. especially during the first few weeks of college, we'd be happy to get to know you guys better. just start talking to a girl, they WILL talk back and there shouldn't be a reason for them to ignore you or give you a dirty look unless you say something completely inappropriate like what their bra size is or something. you can always say, "hey, you look familiar, did we talk before" and she'll say "uh, no i don't think so" and you can start from there or something. just go with the flow!
|By Ledzeppelin1000 (Ledzeppelin1000) on Monday, September 20, 2004 - 05:05 pm: Edit|
alright fellas, best advice youlle hear to picking up chicks, get over yourself, and to the bigger point, get over rejection and all that nervous crap. just try to be yourself, come off as confident and assertive. in meeting or trying to start a convorsation, the best way is to tie your opinion in somewhere or to make a joke of some sort, always work. dont worry about getting rejected, if anything you wont have to see her again.
|By Sammywu (Sammywu) on Monday, September 20, 2004 - 05:58 pm: Edit|
today in my chem class I started a conversation with a girl sitting next to me and I end up getting her IM.
it is a good start
|By Aim78 (Aim78) on Monday, September 20, 2004 - 06:24 pm: Edit|
Girls: Take some intitiative. I hate how girls just wait passively for the guy to come to them. Then they criticize the guy for not having guts. Look at yourselves first!
Sometimes, guys, you'll find it's healthy to take a break from this nonsense. The best thing to realize is that girls are just as insecure as you, probably even more.
|By Idiias (Idiias) on Monday, September 20, 2004 - 07:14 pm: Edit|
what did you say sammywu? I really really really like this girl in my chem class...and sammywu talked to a girl in his chem class. that has to be a sign.
I start conversations with random people in my classes easily, but when it comes to a hot girl, it gets difficult. I'm nervous about this complimenting though...wouldnt that freak a girl out. what if you just went up to her and said, "you have a really nice smile" ahhh its just too weird.
|By Aim78 (Aim78) on Monday, September 20, 2004 - 07:46 pm: Edit|
Really nice smile? That's a bit creepy, unless you look like Brad Pitt. Compliment the clothes or something.
|By Anglophile (Anglophile) on Monday, September 20, 2004 - 07:55 pm: Edit|
"I start conversations with random people in my classes easily, but when it comes to a hot girl, it gets difficult."
I'm beginning to understand why I'm still single.
You know, one of the nicest guys I've met simply walked up to me, shook my hand and introduced himself. It was charming, and I knew it took a lot of guts. You guys don't have to do or say anything elaborate, just say *something*.
|By Arangatan (Arangatan) on Monday, September 20, 2004 - 08:42 pm: Edit|
Yea I totally agree. I have a lot of respect for guys who can just go up to a girl and start a conversation, and personally I hate the whole.. talking about assignments and trying to sit next to them for a couple of days. If the conversation never turns from HW or if you just sit next to her quietly.. then dont even try it. It gets creepy and weird. I say, be brave! The best approach I think, is just to walk up to her, say that you've noticed that she's in your class, maybe ask her what she thinks of the teacher/class or whatever, and then ask if maybe she wants to get coffee sometime. I would be totally flattered if a guy asked me out for coffee and i would definitely go.
|By Welshie (Welshie) on Monday, September 20, 2004 - 08:45 pm: Edit|
For example, I'm teaching an international student from Taiwan the timeless "Hey hot stuff" line. Give it a few weeks until he has it down and the guy will be a babe magnet for sure.
|By Aim78 (Aim78) on Monday, September 20, 2004 - 11:08 pm: Edit|
I have a lot of respect for girls who can do the same. Unfortunately, I haven't met anyone like that.
|By Megofou (Megofou) on Monday, September 20, 2004 - 11:12 pm: Edit|
There are far too many of the 'hot and brave' girls here. If you spot a guy, two of them are already on top of it. So yeah...I'm not so great at the direct approach. I shall be single for all of eternity. Oh well.
There are a lot of girls like me though. Probably won't ask many guys out...but if a guy were to ask, I'd be uber impressed.
|By Welshie (Welshie) on Tuesday, September 21, 2004 - 01:07 am: Edit|
In mine eyes, a girl initiating a conversation or date is extremely flattering. She might not be doing it in such a light but that's the way I feel and I absolutely love it when a girl has the guts/fortitude/desire enough to start something. I do like it when I have to go out and win over a girl but am most flattered when a girl takes the lead.
|By Alphamom (Alphamom) on Tuesday, September 21, 2004 - 01:11 am: Edit|
Actually there are many guys who would like the girl to take the initiative, requiring little or no effort on their part. I can't help but think that this type of person would also let her do all the work to maintain the relationship 90/10. The guy who'll make that first courageous effort to ask a girl out makes the impression that he will appreciate and work at a relationship.
|By Anglophile (Anglophile) on Tuesday, September 21, 2004 - 01:18 am: Edit|
Is chivalry really dead? What happened to the desire to make the girl you like feel special? Yes, it is flattering when the girl asks you out, I'm sure there's a huge sigh of relief, and I know it does wonders for the ego... But... There's something missing there. Can I get some guys' points of view on this?
|By Benzinspeicher (Benzinspeicher) on Tuesday, September 21, 2004 - 11:27 am: Edit|
hey sammywu, you're at RPI like me, and i have that problem with a really hot girl named Nodia
|By Pyewacket (Pyewacket) on Tuesday, September 21, 2004 - 04:00 pm: Edit|
Look for a girl sitting alone in a cafeteria, coffee or snack place on campus. Get a coffee or snack and then ask if you could join her or " is this place free?" Then start a conversation with.."I think you're in my history course with Prof X--are you enjoying the course?" OR "Are you a freshman too? How are you getting along?" Listen to her answer and then ask more questions with the intention of getting her to talk. Find out who she really is and what she really cares about. Remember to really listen and to respond to her comments. After a while you could say "I really enjoyed our conversation. Would you like to meet for coffee again sometime--when do you have a break between courses...?" "Or would you like to meet for lunch tomorrow?"
|By Sammywu (Sammywu) on Tuesday, September 21, 2004 - 05:03 pm: Edit|
I didn't know there are hot girls in RPI. If there are, go for it.
I wonder where you gonna to ask her out, since there is nothing to do offcampus. lol
|By Missegg (Missegg) on Wednesday, September 22, 2004 - 04:29 pm: Edit|
you'ld have a lot less competition if you went for the not so hot people. Yea I look at them but I know they're out of my reach so I don't even bother.
|By Aim78 (Aim78) on Thursday, September 23, 2004 - 12:25 am: Edit|
Hot girls are generally total...well, you know. Girls should not be intimidated by hot guys though, unless they're obviously jerks. Guys will talk to anyone.
I have a pretty good system of being able to weed out the hot girls from the pretty ones. It's mostly in the make-up and hair, and sometimes in the clothing. If there's any hint of glitter on the face, don't even make eye contact.
|By Welshie (Welshie) on Thursday, September 23, 2004 - 12:53 am: Edit|
There is a definite difference between a "hot" girl and a very attractive girl. Personally, I am all about the very attractive/cute girl rather than the "hot" girl. That sounds kind of weird but hopefully you guys out there can make sense of it.
|By Spunks100 (Spunks100) on Thursday, September 23, 2004 - 01:11 am: Edit|
what do you boys consider cute/attractive?
so this guy asks me out and we totally hit it off on our first date. and then after that, the dates are history. all we do is go to the beach and make out or something.
to dump or not to dump?
|By Sammywu (Sammywu) on Thursday, September 23, 2004 - 01:27 am: Edit|
"to dump or not to dump"
|By Anglophile (Anglophile) on Thursday, September 23, 2004 - 02:55 am: Edit|
Spunks100-- if he's not treating you how you want to be treated, tell him. Then if you get the feeling that this is all he can/is willing to offer, ditch him. Just don't try to manipulate or change his behavior. A lot of girls seem to think that's a good idea, like we're still in the 1950s or something.
Ok, what is the difference between a "hot" girl and a very attractive girl? Length of skirt? Seriously, what is it?
Also, I was talking to one of my male friends, and he said that any makeup at all on a girl was a turnoff. What do you guys think? Is makeup bad or good, or don't you notice?
|By Welshie (Welshie) on Thursday, September 23, 2004 - 03:09 am: Edit|
Spunks100- if all you want from the guy is just a makeout session, then more power to you, I suppose. If you do want a decent relationship with the guy, tell him. I consider cute girls the sort of quirky girls. They aren't weird per se, but they don't always do the norm, they keep you guessing. At the same time, they are sweet and sincere.
Anglophile- A "hot" girl is usually associated with the "porn star" type. They pack on the makeup and while they are visually attractive, they don't have a look that your mother would consider too attractive. Most always, these girls tend to be the elitist type which makes knocking them off my list rather easy. A "very attractive girl" doesn't rely on make up to be stunning. She has that universal beauty that you mom, dad, brother, sister, etc. can appreciate. There is just a lot more respect in the term "very attractive" or "very pretty" than there is in "hot." As per the makeup, I don't necessarily lose interest in a girl when she wears makeup but I game a lot of interest in a girl when I see her without it and am still stunned. You should be proud of who you are and show who you are. Don't hide it behind layers of fancy powders, cremes, and glosses.
|By Jl87d (Jl87d) on Thursday, September 23, 2004 - 03:18 am: Edit|
"Ok, what is the difference between a "hot" girl and a very attractive girl? Length of skirt? Seriously, what is it?"
Well, it's kinda hard to explain, and there is often overlap. Basicly however, the way we think is (and I'm being honest, please don't get pissed off) : hot = a Biological reaction, this kinda of girl we think of as an object of lust, and that's about it, we look at her and all we think about is sex, Example(note opinions will vary): Carmen Electra, Britney Spears, Beyonce .
Attractive/cute girls: These are the ones we see and see a future with, we look at them and see a house, and kids and someone we can take home to momma, these girls are often smart, funny and Beautiful(in a non lustful way), Example:... .
|By Anglophile (Anglophile) on Thursday, September 23, 2004 - 03:28 am: Edit|
Thanks Welshie and Jl97d, those are great definitions That's what my instinct said, but I couldn't articulate it as well as you two have done.
|By Gfjigi (Gfjigi) on Thursday, September 23, 2004 - 04:35 am: Edit|
So Anglophile, which one are you trying to be?
A hot girl doesn't have to wear makeup to be hot.
And your guy friend is an idiot if he thinks that just a bit of makeup is a total turnoff. I mean, I'm guessing that most to all girls would wear at least some eyeliner or something on a date.
Plenty of my girls are my school are very hot even without makeup. It mostly has to do with sexual characteristics. Hot girls have the chest, the butt, and the face, in addition to having a wonderfully fit body.
Pretty/cute girls usually have more emphasis of beauty in the face, as well as personality
|By Anglophile (Anglophile) on Thursday, September 23, 2004 - 02:33 pm: Edit|
LOL, which am I trying to be, huh? Interesting question... Ummm... By all the definitions above I am not hot (I always suspected as much), but very attractive (imho). I am going to UCLA though, land of the tan anorexic blondes (still don't know how they let me sneak in). I guess I've got butt, body, and Brains!
|By Megofou (Megofou) on Thursday, September 23, 2004 - 04:15 pm: Edit|
Yay for going to an anerexic blonde school! I figure, I'll get the best guys...because the not-so-great ones will spend too much time drooling over those washcloths girls are wearing as skirts now. At least...that's my fun little theory.
But in all seriousness, I felt like such a college confidential dork today. A guy approached me in class. He sat with me, talked about this that and whatever came to mind, and walked me to my next class. What was I thinking of? The potential study partner? A future date? Nope. This thread. How sad.
|By Spunks100 (Spunks100) on Thursday, September 23, 2004 - 09:17 pm: Edit|
makeup can make or break a girl.
that is my theory.
howeveri do believe just the right amount of makeup can enhance anyones beauty.
|By Megofou (Megofou) on Thursday, September 23, 2004 - 09:30 pm: Edit|
Hm. I only wear make up when I have extra time in the morning to throw it on. Even then, it's usually just a touch of goo to make the dark spots under my eyes go away and a bit of lip gloss. If you ever see me in eyeliner and mascara, I either woke up far too early and got bored...or I felt a random urge to play with my eyes.
I hate girls with make-up caked on. It bothers me because I always wonder what they *really* look like. Do guys like...enjoy the mystery? Is there a demasking ceremony at some point?
|By Spunks100 (Spunks100) on Thursday, September 23, 2004 - 10:43 pm: Edit|
interesting point u bring up megofou.
boys, do you guys notice what a girl is wearing?
or say if a girl usually has her hair in a ponytail but she has it down one day, do u notice?
do u notice frizzy and dead hair from silky and straight hair?
|By Anglophile (Anglophile) on Friday, September 24, 2004 - 12:13 am: Edit|
Megofou, I feel your pain. I am such a CC dork, LOL. Why don't the guys have any questions for us? Perhaps the male mind is a greater mystery...
|By Welshie (Welshie) on Friday, September 24, 2004 - 12:30 am: Edit|
I definitely notice what a girl is wearing. I also notice when a girl wears her hair a different way. I also notice different conditions of hair as well. Notice that I say I "notice" them. I don't always care one way or the other, nor do I always comment aloud on those subjects but I definitely notice.
On another note, I totally blew my chance for a date. Here is the story:
I went to the cafeteria late and doing so allowed me to have almost the entire cafeteria to myself. I got some food, set my tray down at a table and went to grab another plate of pasta. When I got back, to my surprise, a girl I noticed in the foodline was sitting at my own lonesome table and asked if anyone was sitting there. Taking a look around at abandoned cafeteria, I assured her no one was. We talked throughout the entire meal (no weird pauses). I tried my best to be a funny guy and made sure she knew about today being National Ice Cream Cone Day. Near the end of the meal she got a call reminding her about a Biology project she needed to work on in the library. Instead of quickly heading out to ditch me, she hung around and we talked some more. We exchanged some more laughs which felt great. When it was apparent that we were both done she asked me if I wanted to get some ice cream so we did. We talked some more and eventually she needed to head out to the library. As she was leaving I couldn't help but remember that I had a pair of free tickets to the instrumental showcase. Just as she was leaving the cafeteria I agreed that I needed to ask her to it. It was too late.
Continuing on in the night, I had to evacuate my dorm (idiots on my floor powered up a fog maker and didn't realize it would trigger the fire alarm) and decided I needed to go the library and find her. I went, I wandered, I didn't find her. Yeah, I totally missed my shot.
|By Anglophile (Anglophile) on Friday, September 24, 2004 - 12:38 am: Edit|
That's awesome that you met a girl who's obviously into you. But jeeez Welshie-- way to make the girl do all the work! However, all is not lost. I'm sure you'll see her again around campus, then you can ask her out (just be quick about it this time!). Great story, thanks for sharing it
|By Aim78 (Aim78) on Friday, September 24, 2004 - 12:49 am: Edit|
We notice everything. Hair, make-up. Bad odors. Everything. Sometimes it scares us a little. Our bodies are such low maintenance. Girls seem to go to the extreme to fix themselves up, so we wonder how artificial they really are. That's why I like minimal make-up, because it proves that a girl is all natural.
|By Anglophile (Anglophile) on Friday, September 24, 2004 - 01:09 am: Edit|
Yep, girls are high maintenance, but I wouldn't go so far as to say artificial. I think it's just a manefestation of the normal desire to improve oneself. Hair, makeup, clothes, perfume-- all popular because girls like to make themselves better. I kind of wish guys did that (talking about self improvement, not makeup), though perhaps not to the same extent.
|By Ironmaiden (Ironmaiden) on Friday, September 24, 2004 - 01:50 am: Edit|
I've found it's just easier to stop caring.
|By Welshie (Welshie) on Friday, September 24, 2004 - 02:00 am: Edit|
Yeah, I'm sure I'll see her sometime in the near future. She lives very near me (we are a cluster of dorms and ours a only 200 feet away from each other) so I'm sure I'll see her in the cafeteria again-- hopefully sometime before Tuesday (the day of the showcase)!
|By Anglophile (Anglophile) on Friday, September 24, 2004 - 02:14 am: Edit|
Well yeah, it's "easier" Ironmaiden. That's not the point. Ah well, I'm a hopeless perfectionist AND a Virgo, which explains a lot.
Welshie, no need to worry if she lives nearby. I hope you catch her in time!
|By Mzhang23 (Mzhang23) on Friday, September 24, 2004 - 02:35 am: Edit|
Some of you people need to get off the internet and go out into real life. Having real-life conversations is a totally different skill and will lead to social confidence. Staying in front of the computer won't help anything.
|By Anglophile (Anglophile) on Friday, September 24, 2004 - 02:43 am: Edit|
Yeah yeah yeah...
But this really improves my typing skills ;)
|By Pappap (Pappap) on Friday, September 24, 2004 - 01:38 pm: Edit|
Nice to see the angst is the same as it was 30 years ago :-D
I hated dating. I was like the kid up above that can't talk to a girl without stuttering and feeling like running. It's called PANIC, and it sucks.
There is hope. As they say, if I can do it, so can you. I'm married 20 years now. I found a wonderful girl. The funny part was, I wasn't even looking. I met this girl at work. We knew each other for months before we dated.
Be yourself. If you don't like who you are, get help to change yourself. People at peace with who they are don't panic. You can't will away the panic. It takes time, but EVERYONE can do it.
Don't worry about all the a**holes up above giving you a hard time because you panic. They're like the people who laugh at the guy who comes in last at the race - and never race themselves.
|By Aim78 (Aim78) on Friday, September 24, 2004 - 05:58 pm: Edit|
You're right Zhang. I need to go outside and talk to a real person. I haven't been outside in years. I haven't talked to a person in even longer. I'm pale and withering away.
Help me. But first you'll need to get off your computer.
|By Anglophile (Anglophile) on Friday, September 24, 2004 - 07:57 pm: Edit|
Aim78, you are BRILLIANT
|By Vinny77 (Vinny77) on Saturday, September 25, 2004 - 12:53 am: Edit|
This is just charming
|By Anglophile (Anglophile) on Saturday, September 25, 2004 - 02:14 am: Edit|
Charming in a good way or "wow these people are so pathetic" way? Either way we're having a lovely time.
|By Welshie (Welshie) on Saturday, September 25, 2004 - 04:07 am: Edit|
Woo! Tonight (around 10ish) I decided to swallow my pride (and, to a greater degree, my fears) and went onto the student directory to look up the cafeteria girl. I quickly found her phone number and called her up (extremely hard for me considering I have trouble calling for pizza and talking to friends on the phone). I explained who I was and how she met me the other day and she quickly remembered. I asked her if she was doing anything that very moment and, when she said no, asked her if she would like to. She agreed and we met up at cafeteria building at 10:20. We ended up walking around the campus talking and eventually settling in front of the law school building and talked for quite some time. I just got home (2am) and we have a second "date" scheduled for this Tuesday.
|By Vinny77 (Vinny77) on Saturday, September 25, 2004 - 10:09 am: Edit|
That is like Stalker, lol
Charming in good way
|By Welshie (Welshie) on Saturday, September 25, 2004 - 01:06 pm: Edit|
There is a reason why most people call the student directory "StalkerNet." But hey, when I called she wasn't upset that I got her number and there wasn't any awkward, "how did you get this number?" questions either.
|By Anglophile (Anglophile) on Saturday, September 25, 2004 - 03:34 pm: Edit|
"Charming in a good way"
I Absolutely Agree
YAY Welshie, you rock! Success! To everyone else: It can be done!
|By Vinny77 (Vinny77) on Saturday, September 25, 2004 - 07:32 pm: Edit|
Go up to the Girls as say
" hey do you wnat to mate "
She will say yes
|By Welshie (Welshie) on Sunday, September 26, 2004 - 12:29 am: Edit|
Or, according to the English guy that lives on my floor, the simple phrase, "do you fancy a scrog?" works wonders.
|By Soozievt (Soozievt) on Monday, September 27, 2004 - 01:24 pm: Edit|
Wow, Welshie, I loved your story, though got frustrated when you did not get the girl's number and then kept reading only to find that you got up the guts to locate her and ask her out. I am not surprised she said, yes. And way to go on the second date. Wow, keep us informed.
I am just a parent and I know, I know, from the dark ages. But just to tell ya, I met my husband in October of my freshman year in college, though he is a couple of years older than me and lived off campus. I went to do my laundry which was right on my hallway. This guy was there playing guitar waiting for his laundry, since he lived off campus in an apartment. He chose to do laundry in this dorm because he had lived there as a freshman. Normally I would not have stayed while my laundry was running as I lived down the hall but we started to talk. First, when he told me his name and age and I realized he was the same age as my brother and the same name, I must have asked his birthday which turned out to be the same day my brother with the same name was born. I forget where the conversation headed but near the end he asked me if I wanted to go one night in Harvard Square and since I was new to college and he wasn't, it sounded good to me. I recall going back to my room and telling my roomie that I had just gotten a date by merely doing the laundry. So, you guys, ya never know where you might meet someone at college when you are not even trying to (like Welshie in the cafeteria). Just as an aside, that is pretty much the last time I have ever seen him do the laundry now that we have been married for 27 years. Once when our kids were little and we were on a trip in the city where we had gone to college, we took them inside the dorm to show them where we met.
I just took my D to college (different college) for the first time a few weeks ago and when I saw the laundry room on her floor, I thought back to how that was a place where I met her dad.
So, go for it, wherever you are on campus. Now, Welshie, I want an update....
|By Welshie (Welshie) on Monday, September 27, 2004 - 03:52 pm: Edit|
An update will be given tomorrow post-Instrumental Showcase date. Man, this is so awkward/weird.
|By Sammywu (Sammywu) on Monday, September 27, 2004 - 05:26 pm: Edit|
|By 3togo (3togo) on Tuesday, September 28, 2004 - 11:32 am: Edit|
way to go Welshie!!! ... nothing ventured nothing gained ... congrats on getting up your nerve to call!
|By Aim78 (Aim78) on Wednesday, September 29, 2004 - 01:54 am: Edit|
My God...so much talking. It must be hell. That's why I love movie theaters. It's the perfect place for a date. You only talk after the movie, and at that point you have a lot to talk about (about the movie of course). So it's much less painful.
Consider it for your third date.
|By Welshie (Welshie) on Wednesday, September 29, 2004 - 02:03 am: Edit|
Well I suppose I should give an update. First, though, I need to explain another occurence that happened to me today. About a month back I ran into a girl during new student orientation and we really hit it off. We talked for a couple hours until she needed to go to bed and that was that. I never saw her again (I botched up the phone number deal). That is, until today. I was leaving my Calc 2 class early and, passing by the adjacent room, took a peek inside to see, you guessed it, the girl from new student orientation. To say the least, I was stunned because I really wanted to find this girl for the longest time and had pretty much given up on finding her. Anywho, to make a long story short, I got her attention and after her class ended we hung out for a couple hours until my religion class. It sufficeth me to say that the couple hours were great. We hadn't seen each other or talked with each other in over a month yet it was as if we were old pals. Not a dull moment. That was this afternoon.
Tonight went well. No doubt about it. We met up at 7, made our way down to the showcase and found our seats with ease. We talked the entire time (less during the showcase for obvious reasons) and had fun. After the showcase we went out for ice cream and that was fun too. That said, I couldn't help but feel that the flair I felt from the new student orientation girl (both that fateful night a month ago and this morning) was missing. To put it succinctly, I just felt great with the new student orientation girl. I was myself, telling less than funny jokes, and could recount any number of experiences that she could personally identify with. I was alive, I felt amazing. Don't get me wrong, I felt awesome with the girl tonight as well but that X-factor; that flair, was missing. I don't know what I'm going to do but I still feel great for having the privilege of being able to spend time with two awesome ladies today.
|By Astro85 (Astro85) on Wednesday, September 29, 2004 - 02:11 am: Edit|
Hah...congrats...from 0 to 2 in a few days.
|By Whowasthursday (Whowasthursday) on Wednesday, September 29, 2004 - 03:22 pm: Edit|
Hmmm... from this thread, it sounds like it's more trouble than it's worth... that's kinda been my philosophy, anyway. Not that I have anything against girls--I love girls!
Having a relationship just hasn't been one of my priorities, and, honestly, it makes things so much easier.
|By Aim78 (Aim78) on Wednesday, September 29, 2004 - 09:39 pm: Edit|
I can't get beyond the "crush" status. I'm just now finding out through others that there were girls that liked me since MIDDLE school. Then there's this girl in my class now that obviously has a crush on me now. I'll talk to her soon enough and hopefully hit it off. It's time to get in the game.
|By Erosmalice (Erosmalice) on Thursday, September 30, 2004 - 10:59 pm: Edit|
Wow, they deleted my first post. How offensive, I put so much time into it.
Basically, what everyone needs to do is get over themselves and swallow up their pride, like welshie. If you still cant do this, your doomed for an everlasting monogonous life, like me.
|By Anglophile (Anglophile) on Friday, October 01, 2004 - 03:03 am: Edit|
"Hmmm... from this thread, it sounds like it's more trouble than it's worth..."
Whowasthursday-- You're right that dating is a lot of work and it's cool that you're not dating since you don't want to put in the effort required. That's better than doing a half a**ed job, and we ladies thank you.
Way to go Welshie
I've been unable to get online at UCLA for the past week, so let me just say It's Good to be Back!
|By Welshie (Welshie) on Friday, October 01, 2004 - 06:09 pm: Edit|
Welp, myself and Orientation girl went out to lunch today and are going out to a lunch and a movie Tuesday. Looks like we are going to make Int'l Cinemas at least a weekly affair tossed in with some lunches and the like. This of course isn't taking into account an upcoming week where they are playing only amazing movies so we might go every night. Yeah, I'm feeling pretty good.
|By Aim78 (Aim78) on Friday, October 01, 2004 - 08:49 pm: Edit|
Atta boy, get that broad into bed. You deserve it, champ.
|By Anglophile (Anglophile) on Friday, October 01, 2004 - 10:17 pm: Edit|
Aim78-- you irritate me sometimes.
That's great Welshie Now I just need to get my love life up and running. Argh. It's just not that easy to meet people, you know?
|By Soozievt (Soozievt) on Saturday, October 02, 2004 - 12:22 am: Edit|
"Hah...congrats...from 0 to 2 in a few days."
Seriously ,Welshie, you done good. Keep us posted. I love it.
Aim, your post was rather crass. This is one guy doing it right.
|By Welshie (Welshie) on Saturday, October 02, 2004 - 03:07 am: Edit|
Yeah, I know how that goes Anglophile but my best advice would be to just go for it. You have 0% chance of success if you never take that initial leap. Even beyond that, I can empathize with you and not being able to meet people (at least those that interest you). Heck, the two girls I've gone on dates with are really the only two girls I met that have truly caught my interest. Sure, there are other girls out there that are nice and fun but only these two get my blood flowing and my pulse beating, especially the NSO girl. So, looking at it objectively, I've found one (maybe two) girls in this 32,000-person campus that have caught my fancy. There might not be a lot of people out there that catch your fancy but they are out there, you have to find them and enjoy them and their company. Good luck!
|By Anglophile (Anglophile) on Monday, October 04, 2004 - 07:16 pm: Edit|
Thanks for the moral support Welshie But what am I supposed to "go for" exactly? I confess to being psychologically and emotionally opposed to the idea of 'making a move' on a guy-- I just don't think it's a good plan, despite the fact that many guys would love a girl to ask them out. I think I'll strike a happy medium and try to meet people in general, and hopefully some brave gentlemen will be around.
On a side note-- It's my first week at UCLA, and I am pleasantly shocked at the lovely manners of most of the guys around here. It's nice that there are still quite a few guys willing to hold the door for ladies
|By Welshie (Welshie) on Monday, October 04, 2004 - 07:50 pm: Edit|
By "going for it" I mean after you've been cruising in that "happy medium" of yours and stumble(yes, you will stumble) into a conversation with a guy, don't hesitate to get his number or tell him to call you, etc. You think he seems interesting? Find out! I have the self-esteem of a three-legged camel but have managed to "bat 1.000" so far in this dating game. Just got to take that chance!
|By Anglophile (Anglophile) on Monday, October 04, 2004 - 08:06 pm: Edit|
LOL, three legged camel huh? Ok Welshie, I can do that . Now, just need to go and "stumble"...
|By Welshie (Welshie) on Monday, October 04, 2004 - 09:44 pm: Edit|
It's easier said than done.
|By Anglophile (Anglophile) on Tuesday, October 05, 2004 - 10:35 pm: Edit|
hehehee... I literally "stumbled" over a guy last night-- first night of Ballroom dance club. He gave me his e-mail and walked me to my dorm (all the way across campus I might add). I guess it really does take two to Tango. What can I say Welshie, you're psychic.
|By Welshie (Welshie) on Tuesday, October 05, 2004 - 11:19 pm: Edit|
I consider it a "sixth sense" of sorts. Glad to hear you found some success.
|By Welshie (Welshie) on Friday, October 08, 2004 - 01:42 pm: Edit|
Well I guess I'll give an update or something of that sort. NSO girl and I went out last night (to a play) and man was it fantastic (the date and the play). It's funny with this girl, usually you get to know someone and then become comfortable with them but with her, we're already comfortable with each other so the cliched "get to know you" questions are non-existent. It feels great being with her. She's always talking in the future tense about how we are going to do this and that. As an example, I might be in her neck of the woods come Thanksgiving and she told me that if I was, I should definitely call her and she could show me the sites and take me to all the "XXX Factory" restaurants. In addition to that, she's making me a scarf with "specials colors" of yarn she has back home in CA. We are going out tomorrow night to a hockey game (my forte) so I am feeling great.
P.S. Unlike the date with cafeteria girl, this date ended with a hug initiated by the girl. It was groovy.
|By Anglophile (Anglophile) on Friday, October 08, 2004 - 07:26 pm: Edit|
She's making you a scarf? Soooo cute! Isn't it amazing when you meet someone with whom you have an instant familiarity? The only thing I like better than talking about my own love life, is hearing about someone else's Hockey game huh? I bet it gets chilly in there-- make sure she keeps warm (if ya know what I mean).
I'm sick today, so I can't go out Tango dancing tonight with the guy I met -- he asked me to go dancing, if I forgot to mention that .
|By Welshie (Welshie) on Saturday, October 09, 2004 - 01:17 am: Edit|
I know the feeling of having sickness get in the way of things. In fact, NSO girl has been sick all last week (Utah's everchanging weather can do that to you). So, as a joke (and hopefully sweet gesture), tomorrow night when we go out, I'm bringing a thermos of apple cider, two mugs, a blanket and a care package for her with some of apple cider, Sucrets throat drops, and some chicken noodle soup. Don't worry too much about the cold issue, I'm bringing a warm blanket and the cider should help us keep warm (yes I know what you were hinting at).
|By Jajas2 (Jajas2) on Saturday, October 09, 2004 - 05:50 pm: Edit|
Wow, this thread is almost exactly like my college experiemnce. In high school i was painfully shy, I had only one girlfriend and basically couldnt talk to girls. Since the 5 weeks ive been at college ive gotten 4 phone numbers, countless IM's and dates with 3 different girls (including one older woman... like 10 years older. My lord, its like The Graduate). I just go up to a girl i see, compliment them, ask them if theyre in one of my classes and thats it. Remember, everyones in the same boat. And chances are, those girls you want to talk to want to talk to some guys too! So dont be shy. Im having the greatest time in my life, meeting lots of new people, and just having a ball. its great. Maybe it's because Ive just never been rejected yet, lol. but it seems incredibly easy to meet girls on college campuses, just sit beside them in class and start talking. I just wish i knew this in high school...
|By Starman (Starman) on Monday, October 11, 2004 - 03:42 am: Edit|
Um...I'm not in college, but here's what I do.
Basically walk up to her and say "Hey, I'm lonely tonight. Wanna ? It'll be good fun." Trick is you have to have some type of acquaintance/talking relationship with her first though, so ask girls in your class who know you and like to talk to you occasionally. You also have to be good in bed, read up on sex sites and stuff. If you were a fantastic , don't worry, word will get 'round and soon many girls will want to have sex with you.
Yes, believe it man, there are many sex starved girls out there. Works more often than not. ^_^
Ignore all of what I just said if you're trying to go for a serious relationship.
|By Welshie (Welshie) on Monday, October 11, 2004 - 03:45 am: Edit|
I think I can succinctly reply to that last comment with the statement that I go to BYU.
|By Idiias (Idiias) on Monday, October 11, 2004 - 03:53 am: Edit|
Thanks for the update welshie, now go to sleep. you have midterms this week!
(okay, okay I just wanted to be the 100th post)
|By Welshie (Welshie) on Monday, October 11, 2004 - 04:24 am: Edit|
Midterms-- ha! I've already had a handful of midterms and I'm still trucking. Though I will admit that I have a hefty amount of work I need to do for my writing class that I just can't seem to do because... well... even though NSO girl and I had to sort of rearrange our plans on Saturday night, I left her dorm thinking "Wow..." and have been chilling on Cloud 9 ever since.
|By Welshie (Welshie) on Monday, October 11, 2004 - 07:04 pm: Edit|
Wow. I didn't get to bed until 6am last night-- that wasn't good.
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