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I'm basically sending an SOS out there to internet world. This thread is directed to people who had a gf/bf in high school and are going on to college. Are you breaking up under the banner that it wouldn't work long-distance anyways and you'd be denying yourself the chance to fully experience college life? Or are you staying together, hoping its true love and this is the one even if it means being lonely and stressed at times? Any advice, rational, thoughts, or just common experiences/situtations would be so appreciated right now that you couldn't imagine.

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By Serene (Serene) on Friday, August 01, 2003 - 03:09 am: Edit

It all depends on how far apart the two colleges are right?
I know a few kids who are going to break up in August/September. And a couple who's going to try to stay together (Yale-Harvard).

By Jenniferelaine (Jenniferelaine) on Friday, August 01, 2003 - 10:12 pm: Edit

I've been with my boyfriend since he was a HS senior and since I was a HS sophomore. Currently he is a college jr, and I'm a college freshman/sophomore (took courses in hs). The closest we have ever lived was an hour apart.

By Donotdisturb (Donotdisturb) on Friday, August 01, 2003 - 11:41 pm: Edit

My GF is going off to college and i'm going to be a hs senior. However, she wants to stay together and I'd do the same as well. Distance doesn't really matter IMO (even though she's only about 15-20 miles away which is at max a 30 minute drive without any bad traffic). If they want to stay together (seriously), then no reason why it shouldn't work.

By Spit (Spit) on Saturday, August 02, 2003 - 03:37 pm: Edit

15- 20 miles?! thats not even long distance!

By Donotdisturb (Donotdisturb) on Saturday, August 02, 2003 - 05:48 pm: Edit

> 15- 20 miles?! thats not even long distance!

after being with them for 2 years within 2 miles.... 15-20 miles seems like lightyears away ;)

By Spit (Spit) on Saturday, August 02, 2003 - 05:54 pm: Edit

yeah i guess so. When i went away to college, i was in a completely different continent than my bf, so 15 miles would have been pretty great! =)

By Uncchlocalmayor (Uncchlocalmayor) on Saturday, August 02, 2003 - 07:36 pm: Edit

yah, she's a year behind me--she dumped me when i went off to college last fall.

By Good_Gal (Good_Gal) on Sunday, August 03, 2003 - 02:18 pm: Edit

my boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years- since 1oth grade. we're both going to college next month- luckily, in the same country. i'll be at the University Of Rochester in New York, while he'll be in Williams College in Massachusetts.
We will be around 5 hours apart. We have never considered breaking up for college because that's really silly if you really love somebody.
we plan to keep in touch through videochat,and visit eachother whenever possible.
If it's true love,it will last.

By Zerg_Vvins (Zerg_Vvins) on Monday, August 04, 2003 - 07:03 pm: Edit

serene would you be one of the yale-harvard couple?

By Serene (Serene) on Tuesday, August 05, 2003 - 08:36 pm: Edit

No fortunately I'm not in a Harvard-Yale relationship =)

By Davez0218 (Davez0218) on Friday, August 08, 2003 - 03:15 am: Edit

I've been wishing to God I could be in a Columbia-Yale relationship... but at the present... I don't think thats going to happen. Its for the best I suppose.... right? Maybe.... hehehe who are U trying to convince? :*(

By Uncchlocalmayor (Uncchlocalmayor) on Friday, August 08, 2003 - 10:07 pm: Edit

someone got dumped...

By Serene (Serene) on Saturday, August 09, 2003 - 02:31 am: Edit

Don't Columbia and Yale have some distance between each other?
Be optimistic! =)

By Hotgrl03 (Hotgrl03) on Wednesday, August 13, 2003 - 08:50 am: Edit

My boyfriend and i have been together for a year, and we've lived 30 minutes apart. When I go off to Rutgers we will be 3 hrs apart. He is training for the military. We're going to stay together and see what happens, but I have never been in a long distance relationship before. I love him so much, so I hope things work out. I'm worried that we won't see each other enough. ( I like to be able to see my baby, you know!) We haven't really sat down and talked about what we're gonna do. We're just trying to enjoy being so close to each other right now. Unfortunately, we have to face reality really soon. I hope it all works out. If it's true love it will work out. I'm just happy I was able to share such an intimate relationship with someone so special.

By The_Slc_Bug (The_Slc_Bug) on Wednesday, October 01, 2003 - 11:02 am: Edit

We've been together three years. Last year, we were an hour apart. This year, it is four hours. No big deal, if you're in love-- as long as you're *INDEPENDENT* and have TRUST, you will be fine! However, if you're too clingy and have any doubts, it might not work as well and you'll find yourself miserable. Once you learn to accept the fact that you're apart, it becomes much easier. Try your best to see each other once a month if far away, or every two weeks if you're closer.

By Ariesathena (Ariesathena) on Wednesday, October 01, 2003 - 03:54 pm: Edit

To add on to the previous, if either person is AT ALL clingy, possessive, controlling, or insecure, break up. I was in a college-high school relationship, and he was the one in hs who was too insecure (and all other characteristics above) to deal with it. It ruined my time at college until I dumped him.

Both people have to care about the other person enough to want them to have the college experience, even if that is at the expense of couple time. When in doubt, break up - there is only a miniscule chance that it will last.