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what do u think the posibilities are that many people find their future husband/wife in college?do u think it depends what college?

By Emeraldkity4 (Emeraldkity4) on Wednesday, June 25, 2003 - 03:37 pm: Edit

Go to BYU

http://speeches.byu.edu/devo/2002-03/ChadwickSp02.html

By Thedad (Thedad) on Wednesday, June 25, 2003 - 03:56 pm: Edit

Funny but that's exactly what I did, though it was six years after I earned my B.A. and I was back in school at UCLA Extension taking classes in Lit at night, the kinds of stuff I didn't have room to take when I had been an Engineering student.

By Emeraldkity4 (Emeraldkity4) on Wednesday, June 25, 2003 - 06:29 pm: Edit

went to BYU or met your spouse Thedad?

I think lots of students probably do meet future sig others at college. afterall many of them make lifelong friends there if they are lucky, and college provides the kinds of atmosphere where you are going to meet lots of people in a social setting .
Just be sure to save all your pictures for your kids so they can gawk at your hairstyles and clothing.

By Ariesathena (Ariesathena) on Friday, June 27, 2003 - 09:24 pm: Edit

As someone said "Many people think you meet your future husband at college, but it's actually where you meet your future bridesmaids." While many people do meet their future spouse at college (or even in high school), as many do not do so.

By Sweetpea (Sweetpea) on Monday, July 14, 2003 - 08:21 pm: Edit

hey
Im 19, and i jus had a boyfriend starting this year in college.. and i really like him, but my parents are overprotective and think that im too young and i hsould worry about school rather than boys. what should i do/say to them so they can understand?? PLEASE HELP

By Chim_Chim (Chim_Chim) on Monday, July 14, 2003 - 09:36 pm: Edit

You're 19 and don't live with them, so it doesn't really matter what they say as long as they don't disown you.

I can see their point if they don't want you to get married, but most kids in college are dating.

By Purgeofdoors (Purgeofdoors) on Monday, July 14, 2003 - 11:38 pm: Edit

it's not like school and relationships are mutually exclusive.

Well, they don't have to be.

By Sweetpea (Sweetpea) on Thursday, July 17, 2003 - 12:08 am: Edit

hi
i broke up with my bf a couple days ago, and we both decided we would stay friends and wait a couple years and start to focus more on school instead. i fear that this will start to distant our relationship, is that normal? i dont want to lose a great bond that we have, but i dont want to see him with another chick. is it just goin to take some time?

By Tsdad (Tsdad) on Thursday, July 17, 2003 - 08:23 pm: Edit

We met in grad school at UNC. We had apartments across from each other in Carboro. She knocked on my door one day to ask for a phillips head screw driver to put on her license plate. I took one look at her, and ...

By Soozievt (Soozievt) on Tuesday, July 22, 2003 - 01:14 am: Edit

As long as you do not go to college to find a spouse....
The thing is, many do end up meeting a long term partner in college. And to the person who was asking about having a boyfriend in college and/or making school a top priority....it is my belief that those are not exclusive things. You can have both.

I met my husband in October of my freshman year at Tufts. I met him doing the laundry as a matter of fact. I am a real oddity, even for my generation, in that I got married while still an undergraduate (though he had just graduated). It was summer after my sophmore year. However, I still continued at Tufts. He entered a four year graduate school and I worked as a teacher upon graduation for a year and a half, then entered graduate school at Harvard. So, you can have your spouse and your education too!
Susan

PS, am not advocating getting married so young at all.....but just saying people do meet eventual spouses in college quite often and also am saying you can have a serious relationship in college and still get a great education. I never gave up any of my intended educational goals by marrying or going out with someone.

By Serene (Serene) on Tuesday, July 22, 2003 - 05:27 am: Edit

Soosievt: I think that's very sweet!!! =)

By Soozievt (Soozievt) on Tuesday, July 22, 2003 - 08:48 am: Edit

Well, thanks, Serene. My 26th anniversary is next week. Once in a great while we have gone back to where we met. The thing about meeting while doing the laundry...I always tell people, it was the last time I ever saw him do it!

Now, all these years later, my daughter got interested in Tufts and I went to look at the school with her this past fall (she is now a rising senior). It sure was weird being on campus now as a parent, not a student. And then going by Hill Hall where I met her dad. I never ever imagined I would get married so young and still in college. But I am here to tell the tale all these years later.
Susan