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My girlfriend and I (three years)want to go to different colleges, but we also want to stay together...any tips, stories, advice, anything???

By Dadster on Friday, August 23, 2002 - 09:59 pm: Edit

Some relationships can indeed survive the separation. One good thing is that now it's easy and cheap to stay in touch - e-mail, instant messaging, cell phones, etc., all reduce the barriers to communicating frequently.

By Kel (Kel) on Monday, October 07, 2002 - 06:08 am: Edit

A friend of mine and his girlfriend were together for 6 years and they lived in different states almost the whole time. When he told me they were getting married I was amazed. I couldn't belive that two people who saw so little of eachother could build a strong and heathly realtionship. But a month or two ago, they got married and are one of the happiest couples I've ever seen. It's like they waited their whole life to be together. I think if the relatinship is strong enough, it can survive anything.

By True Cowboy on Wednesday, November 20, 2002 - 12:56 am: Edit

You will be heading off to a new place full of new people, experiences, and opportunities... do you want to be obligated to someone so far away? Have you considered "taking a break"? Try dating some new people at your new school, and if you still find that you really care about each other, then by all means, get back together. My best friend is dating some who is going to school on the East coast (we live in the Mid-West)and he can't enjoy himself because he feels like if he is having fun without her he is in some way cheating on her. I'm not trying to make my friend hook up with other girls, but he can't even go out to a club or a coffee house without feeling guilty. His social life is zilch...

By Dan LeFevre on Friday, December 27, 2002 - 11:27 pm: Edit

haha i just stumbled upon this page looking for advice to convince MY significant other to give it a try. dude i think that if you and your girlfriend like each other that much, than nothing should stop you. its all about how bad you want it.

By tee hee hee on Saturday, January 04, 2003 - 03:01 am: Edit

If you like being absotnant or if you like cheating on your girlfriend, then I guess a long distance relationship is okay.

By dominican_chica on Tuesday, January 07, 2003 - 01:17 pm: Edit

My boyfriend and i love each other very much. The only problem is he lives in Dominican Republic and i live in the states. We both go to college and want to be with each other. We talk everyday either on the phone or on the computer or sometimes both. We want the same things in life its just that sometimes other guy notice me and i often think about cheating although i havent and i never came close to it but is that normal?

By Anonymous on Tuesday, January 07, 2003 - 07:50 pm: Edit

My girlfriend of 5 years is a bit younger than me and won't be going to college yet, but I think our relationship will live through college. We do not have a sexual relationship, it's just that we enjoy each other's company... which we get very little of. We already see each other only about once a month, and talk online mostly, so I don't think it'll be a big problem.

And we love each other. =)

I wouldn't be surprised if our relationship ended peacefully during college, then picked up later or if we just remained friends.

By Sonicbill1 (Sonicbill1) on Thursday, January 09, 2003 - 05:11 am: Edit

I can picture it now. Once you both part ways to your respective colleges, your girlfriend will forget about you, and will become the university whore.

By JenniferElaine on Friday, January 10, 2003 - 03:10 pm: Edit

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years. He's in his second year of college, and I'm still a senior in HS two hours away. It's not that long of a drive, but our schedules make it impossible for me to drive up there more than every 4-5 weeks and it's only complicated by the fact that he doesn't have a car. The killer? The school I want to go to is another couple hours in the oppisite direction, and I will be left witout wheels.

Here's the good side. We do a LOT of talking online, in fact, we talk every night. It's not as good as him being there..but it's the best I've got, I'm going to take it.

Did I mention we love each other?

By akira on Monday, February 03, 2003 - 09:07 am: Edit

Relationships have caused me nothing but pain
all I do is find people who feed off my kindness
Noone can comprehend the pain and the feelings that burn inside.
How do you tell if a person is inline with your personality

By Thedad (Thedad) on Monday, February 03, 2003 - 12:18 pm: Edit

Experience, time, and taking it slow.
Having realistic expectations.

Two other things: for someone else to like you,
it's a fair bet that you have to like you first.
And--and I speak from decades-old experience--
being emotionally needy is guaranteed to drive
most people away.

Good luck.

By w/love on Thursday, February 20, 2003 - 03:28 pm: Edit

I agree with thedad, you have to really know yourself and know who you want. It takes discipline and maturity. My boyfriend and I have been apart for over a year (dating three years) but we try to see each other every three or four months. It's very difficult and loneliness is common, but we talk everyday GO VERIZON 1000 MOBILE TO MOBILE! Just hearing the sound of his voice makes me feel alright. We just think ahead about our future together. It's just weathering the storm for the time being. If you really love each other and know you want to spend the rest of your lives together everything will be ok. It's when you're not sure where the problem starts. Be up front, communicate!

By your local mayor on Thursday, February 20, 2003 - 05:23 pm: Edit

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By Callidreams (Callidreams) on Wednesday, May 14, 2003 - 01:25 am: Edit

I joined the Airforce nearly 3 years ago and i met her while on vacation we spent every bit of the time together and have talked for the past 3 years i have visited about 5 times she lives in CA and i live in South Carolina. the problem is that shes telling me all of suddent that im starting to get on her nerves and that i call too much and that she needs her space ... I love her with all my heart and im scared to lose this one . ill be moving back in less than a year,

By Skunk01k4 (Skunk01k4) on Thursday, February 12, 2004 - 12:02 pm: Edit

Long distance realtionship are better than having on on campus... It's less stressful cause you are not nagged and you really don't get destacted from your work.... I'm in a relationship that has no value, it's all about money and scandless lies... No trust from either side ... At least in long distance relations you can be missed and feel welcome and wanted when you come home.