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So I came home at lunch to get the mail and find my decision, and my mom tells me that my dog, who has been extremely sick the past 2 weeks, has been put down. We've been trying to figure out what was wrong and she wouldn't eat and she kept vomiting. My mom took her to the vet today and it turns out the results of the blood test said she had terminal cancer, and they had to put her to sleep immediately. I didn't even get to say goodbye. As I'm sobbing uncontrolably, the mail comes with my deferral letter. I'm completely at a loss, I'm so sad. I can barely see the keyboard I'm sobbing so much as I write this... I don't even know why I'm writing it, maybe it helps to tell someone.

By Evil_Robot (Evil_Robot) on Monday, December 15, 2003 - 12:41 pm: Edit

My prayers go out to you, buddy

By Iamthekid (Iamthekid) on Monday, December 15, 2003 - 12:48 pm: Edit

My prayers go out to you, buddy

By Kshroff1 (Kshroff1) on Monday, December 15, 2003 - 12:53 pm: Edit

I'm so sorry!!!

By Thedad (Thedad) on Monday, December 15, 2003 - 02:01 pm: Edit

Ach. Not being able to say good-bye is terrible.
I'm so sorry.

By Arsatlas (Arsatlas) on Monday, December 15, 2003 - 03:30 pm: Edit

Just know that whatever pain your dog was going through is over now.
I had to lose a dog once when I was little, and it was very hard. I know how you feel. Hang in there....do something happy and try to move on

By Nutmag345 (Nutmag345) on Monday, December 15, 2003 - 04:19 pm: Edit

I don't know how to console you, but hang in there. I am currently sobbing my heart out over my deferral too, and hopefully things will work out. If not, life goes on.

By Sunshine916 (Sunshine916) on Monday, December 15, 2003 - 04:37 pm: Edit

dont worry. i got deferred too today. i spent about an hour crying, but then realized there was nothing to do. things happen for a reason. maybe i wasn't meant for princeton. there are other places i would still love to go to.

i know its hard and i dont know what to say to you right now. my eyes are stil red from crying. my dad hugged me for so long.

its hard to come to terms with stuff like this, but life will eventually work itself out. *hug*

By Zorro5280 (Zorro5280) on Monday, December 15, 2003 - 05:53 pm: Edit

Damn, I feel for you. I'm reminded of a passage from a novel my father wrote:

"Chuck Edwards, his best pal from Ursinus, once told him that when he had to put his cat to sleep, he returned to his car, sat there for a moment and then howled. Howled like a wolf in utter primal agony, pain and heartbreak. So too, did Jordan right then and there. Like Chuck, he never saw it coming. This was not crying. This was like some Klingon death ritual. Only the feeling of a vital organ being ripped from one’s body could cause such a sound."

Pets, people, dreams. They're hell to mourn. Peace.

By Voigtrob (Voigtrob) on Monday, December 15, 2003 - 05:55 pm: Edit

I'm okay now. I don't think I was upset about the deferal very much, just having it toppled on top of me minutes after I hear about my dog was a little too much to handle.

By Borglq (Borglq) on Monday, December 15, 2003 - 06:09 pm: Edit

if thats true, im really sorry. Hope you get in regular.

By Bluebins (Bluebins) on Tuesday, December 16, 2003 - 06:16 pm: Edit

I am so sorry about your dog. If it helps at all, we had to have our dog put to sleep. I couldn't quit crying either, and I asked the vet if everybody goes through that. She said that the good owners put their dogs to sleep. The others let their pets suffer and die a 'natural' death. I don't know, it helped me a little I guess to hear that. But it's the hardest thing in the world to get over. You'll always be sad about your dog, but the best thing in the world for you would be to get another dog right away, if your parents are willing to take care of it for you while you're in college. You have no idea how much that helps. If you can't get another one yet, volunteer to walk a neighbor's dog -- 90% of the dogs in our neighborhood never get out of their small back yards. If you do get another dog, a great way to honor the memory of your dog would be to pick a rescue or pound dog.

By Voigtrob (Voigtrob) on Tuesday, December 16, 2003 - 08:47 pm: Edit

Yea, she was a rescue center dog herself. We got her when she was about 2, and she had been abused and mistreated her whole life. She was all dirty and scruffy and scared in the center... if we hadn't taken her she may have been put to sleep. She had a good 5 years with us though, and she lived really well. We went back to the same center today - there's a puppy we're probably gonna adopt... looks a lot like her and stuff. I'm really happy about it.

By Patient (Patient) on Tuesday, December 16, 2003 - 11:40 pm: Edit

I just have to say this, reading this as a parent: you guys are the greatest. Hang in there, the college that gets you all is going to be so lucky.

By Bluebins (Bluebins) on Wednesday, December 17, 2003 - 01:55 pm: Edit

Patient, what a nice thing to say. I think that anyone having you as a parent is really lucky too. Thank you.

By Voigtrob (Voigtrob) on Wednesday, December 17, 2003 - 03:28 pm: Edit

Agreed with Bluebins... and I sure hope the admissions boards feel the same way Patient does.

By Saccharine (Saccharine) on Wednesday, December 17, 2003 - 03:36 pm: Edit

Hope you're better now, Voigtrob .

Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Good luck!

By Voigtrob (Voigtrob) on Wednesday, December 17, 2003 - 03:55 pm: Edit

Heh, thanks, yea I'm feeling okay (got the flu tho, haha, what a week). I really miss her, but at least her pain is over now. As for Princeton, I can deal. I would be exstatic to go to any of my reaches or good matches, and happy even at my safeties, so I'm not really worried about college... though I would still love Princeton, obviously, and I'm staying optimistic. :-)
Thanks to everyone for all the support.